Life is Too Short to be a Hater

Ceritanya tadi malam, gue nonton siaran ulang Desperate Housewives season 6 yang salah satunya bercerita tentang Lynette yang sangat membenci kehamilannya. Apa alasannya? Usianya sudah kepala 4 dan sudah punya 4 orang anak! Ditambah lagi, saat itu dia sedang mengandung anak kembar pula!

Dalam episode itu diceritakan Lynette sedang duduk di ruang tunggu klinik kandungan seorang diri, sedangkan persis di sebelahnya, ada pasangan suami-istri yang terlihat sangat bahagia dengan kehamilan pertama sang istri. Saat sang suami sedang pergi mengambil minum untuk istrinya, Lynette mulai mengatakan hal-hal yang tidak menyenangkan kepada si calon ibu muda tentang betapa tidak enaknya mengandung, melahirkan, dan membesarkan seorang anak.

Berbagai hal buruk dilontarkan Lynette berdasarkan pengalaman pribadinya. Soal melahirkan dan menyusui merusak bentuk tubuh, soal suami tidak akan mau repot-repot ikut mengurus anak-anak di rumah, sampai soal anak-anak itu hanya akan tumbuh jadi remaja pembangkang yang mencuri uang orang tuanya. Puncaknya, Lynette juga bilang, “You will feel lonely but you will never ever have some times alone.”

Mendengar perkataan Lynette, si calon ibu muda yang tadinya terlihat bahagia menyambut kelahiran anak pertamanya langsung jadi sedih dan menangis tersedu-sedu.

Apa yang coba gue sampaikan dalam tulisan ini? Sesuai judul tulisan; life is too short to be a hater. Dengan kata lain, gue mencoba bilang: jangan buang-buang waktu untuk menjadi hater, alias, perusak kebahagiaan dalam hidup orang lain.

Don’t be a hater for a stranger like Lynette did, but on top of that, don’t be such a hater for someone you know in your daily life.

Jangan merusak excitement orang lain dengan mengatakan bahwa “hal itu biasa-biasa saja”. Jangan mengucapkan hal tersebut meskipun kita benar berpendapat demikian, dan terlebih lagi, jangan mengucapkan hal tersebut hanya karena kita merasa iri. It’s just shallow, isn’t it?

Jangan merusak rencana-rencana orang lain dengan selalu mencari sisi buruknya. Bukannya gue tidak realistis, tapi faktanya, tidak ada satu pun hal di dunia ini yang tidak punya kekurangan! If you can’t be supportive, at least, you can be quiet.

Jangan membenci orang lain, apalagi sampai berhenti berteman atau bahkan memusuhi hanya karena iri dengan kebahagiaan dan kesuksesan mereka. It’s not their fault for having such a great life, it’s your own fault for wasting your times just to hate other people’s life rather than making a great life for yourself instead.

Kembali lagi ke judul awal; hidup terlalu singkat untuk menjadi pembenci. Orang-orang yang kita benci itu sudah terbiasa dengan hadirnya haters dalam hidup mereka. Tingkah kita untuk ‘membenci’ mereka itu sudah tidak lagi membebani hidup mereka, malah kenyataannya, hal itu justru membebani hidup kita sendiri!

Menjadi hater hanya akan mengotori hati kita sendiri. Buang-buang waktu kita sendiri. Merusak kebahagiaan kita sendiri. Dan tentunya, hanya akan membuat kita menjadi pihak yang dibenci. Sekali lagi, kita yang akan dibenci, bukan mereka! Kita hanya akan dikenal sebagai “si tukang dengki yang selalu sinis dan senang merusak kebahagiaan orang lain”.

Sebetulnya kalo menurut gue, hater is hater for a reason. Menjadi tukang benci hanya akibat dari ketidakbahagiaan dalam hati atau ketidakpuasan atas hidupnya sendiri. Itulah sebabnya gue selalu bilang; live your life into the fullest! Do what you love to do. If you want something, then you will do your best to go for it and make it real!

Antara menjadi pembenci atau menjadi orang yang berusaha meningkatkan kualitas hidup sendiri itu membutuhkan jumlah waktu dan tenaga yang sama besar. Jadi, daripada buang-buang waktu untuk mencari-cari hal buruk untuk dilontarkan, daripada buang-buang tenaga hanya ‘memikirkan’ dan ‘mengamati’ orang-orang yang kita benci, kenapa tidak mencari cara untuk membahagiakan diri sendiri? Make yourself proud is always much better than make yourself as a hater!

Finally, untuk teman-teman yang sering jadi sasaran pembenci, ingat-ingat saja lirik lagunya Taylor Swift, “Haters gonna hate hate hate.” Mereka (the haters) baca artikel ini pun belum tentu tergerak hatinya untuk memperbaiki diri, karena memang mereka sendiri yang lebih memilih untuk tetap menjadi hater. If that’s the case, no matter how kind we are, haters will hate anyway. Just make sure that we’re NOT one of those haters okay!

Have a lovely weekend!

The Beauty of Meteora

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Meteora Hotel at Kastraki.

Apa sih, yang pertama terlintas di benak kamu saat mendengar nama Yunani? Blue dome church in Santorini? The magnificent blue Aegean sea? Acropolis? Or a beach party at Mykonos? 

Awalnya, Meteora juga tidak masuk ke dalam itinerary gue. Jangankan masuk ke itinerary, dengar namanya saja gue belum pernah! Entah kenapa, Meteora memang tidak cukup terkenal di kalangan turis Indonesia. Tapi berkat iseng-iseng googling “tourist attraction in Greece“, gue jadi ‘diperkenalkan’ dengan Meteora; the natural big rocks with monasteries on top of it. Pertama kali melihat gambarnya, gue langsung terkesima!

Hanya saja sayangnya, Meteora ini termasuk jauh dari Athena. Membutuhkan perjalanan darat dengan kereta antara 5-6 jam! Bisa capek rasanya kalau harus pulang-pergi dari Athena hanya dalam 1 hari yang sama. Tapi misalkan gue sampai menginap, kegiatan apa saja yang akan gue lakukan di sana nanti? Secara tourist attraction-nya ya hanya pemandangan Meteora dan monasteries-nya itu saja kan…

Setelah dipertimbangkan matang-matang, akhirnya gue sepakat dengan diri gue sendiri (secara memang gue mengunjungi Meteora hanya sendirian); gue akan tetap menginap satu malam di Kastraki; desa terdekat dengan Meteora. Gue bahkan berhasil menemukan hotel yang punya the best panoramic view of Meteora. Foto gue di depan kolam renang hotel ini benar-benar keren kalo menurut gue, hehehehe.

Dalam satu hari, hanya ada satu direct train (tanpa transit) dari Athena ke Kalambaka (stasiun terdekat untuk mengunjungi Meteora), begitu pula sebaliknya; hanya ada satu kali direct train dari Kalambaka kembali ke Athena. Kereta pagi untuk keberangkatan, dan kereta malam untuk kepulangan ke Athena. Durasi yang sangat ideal kalau menurut gue. Kita bisa santai menikmati sunset tour di hari pertama, santai-santai pagi di hari ke dua, lalu kembali explore Meteora dari siang sampai dengan sore di hari ke dua. Sekitar jam 5, waktunya kembali ke stasiun kereta Kalambaka.

Lalu bagaimana pengalaman gue berkunjung ke Meteora? Just three words: it was wonderful!

Di hari pertama, gue putuskan untuk mengikuti sunset tour bareng travel agent Meteora Thrones. Mereka jemput gue ke hotel jam 4 sore dengan minibus yang keren banget! Ada free wi-fi di dalam bisnya, jadi bisa langsung upload foto keren yang baru saja gue dapatkan, hehehehe.

Selama tur yang berlangsung sekitar 4 jam itu, gue dan dua turis asing lainnya dibawa mengelilingi 6 monasteries yang ada di sana. Sayangnya dari 6 monasteries itu, kita hanya diberi kesempatan untuk masuk ke dalam 2 monasteries yang paling kecil saja. Kenapa begitu? Karena waktunya tidak akan cukup jika kita juga masuk ke dalam monasteries yang lebih besar secara bisa sampai ada 100-200 anak tangga hanya untuk sampai ke atas monastery!

Selain mengunjungi monasteries, kita juga berhenti di beberapa tempat bersejarah dan tentunya, beberapa tempat yang sangat ideal untuk berfoto. Bagian foto-foto ini yang paling gue suka! Karena menurut gue, monasteries itu justru terlihat lebih indah dari luar daripada dari dalamnya. Lagipula tanpa ada monasteries-nya pun, Meteora ini sudah luar biasa indahnya! Tempatnya juga sangat fotogenik dan bikin gue jadi kepingin ambil foto lagi dan lagi dan lagi!

Menjelang jam 7 sore, kita dibawa beranjak menuju sunset point. Tempatnya agak curam, jadi harus ekstra hati-hati dan tidak disarankan mengenakan sendal jepit. Begitu sampai sana, Dimitri si tour guide langsung mengarahkan gue duduk di tepian batu besar untuk the best sunset viewing. Dan benar saja! Tanpa ada embel-embel sunset pun, tempat itu sudah sangat memukau mata! Gue bener-bener enggak bisa berhenti mengagumi indahnya pemandangan di depan mata. Pada saat itulah gue memutuskan, “Meteora ini udah jadi tempat paling indah yang pernah gue kunjungi!”

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Selesai nonton sunset, kita diantar pulang menuju hotel masing-masing. Atau sebenarnya, bisa juga minta diantar ke tempat lain, ke restoran terdekat misalnya, tapi gue tetap lebih memilih pulang ke hotel karena langit sudah sangat gelap. Sampai hotel, gue langsung menuju restoran untuk makan malam. Meskipun udara terasa agak dingin, gue tetap lebih memilih duduk di luar, di tepi kolam renang, sambil memandang Meteora di malam hari. Meteora-nya memang tidak terlihat jelas, tapi lampu-lampu dari desa di bawah hotel, angin sepoi-sepoi dan suara jangkrik sudah bikin acara makan malam gue menjadi lebih istimewa.

Keesokan paginya, gue putuskan untuk santai-santai di hotel. Istirahat cukup untuk ‘membayar’ capeknya gue belasan jam di pesawat disambung 5 jam di kereta hanya beberapa jam setelah landing. Gue lalu dengan cueknya makan sangat banyak saat sarapan di hotel (dan ternyata, breakfast di hotel pagi itu merupakan the best breakfast gue selama berlibur di Yunani!) dilanjutkan main-main di pinggir kolam renang. Dan tidak lupa, ambil foto yang banyak! Gue dibantu salah satu restaurant waitress untuk ambil foto gue di pinggir kolam renangnya.

Kemudian setelah check out jam 12 siang, gue langsung dijemput supir taksi yang akan mengantar gue jalan-jalan sampai dengan jam 4 sore. Untuk taxi tour ini jatuhnya agak mahal (EUR 50) jika dibandingkan sunset tour yang hanya EUR 25 secara dalam satu taksi itu penumpangnya hanya gue seorang. Meskipun mahal, tapi gue sangat puas! Gue bebas foto sebanyak-banyaknya dan si supir taksi ini membawa gue ke banyak tempat yang belum gue kunjungi di hari sebelumnya. Ternyata, ada cukup banyak tempat yang hanya bisa diakses oleh mobil kecil saja. Misalnya, tempat untuk melihat Kastraki village dari ketinggian. Foto-foto terbaik gue di Meteora justru gue dapatkan selama taxi tour ini.

Selama taxi tour, gue sempat masuk ke dalam 2 monasteries yang ukurannya lebih besar. Gue paling suka saat mengunjungi Holly Trinity. Jika berkunjung ke sana, jalan terus sampai keluar dari pintu belakang, ikuti jalan sampai ke ujung bukitnya. Di ujung bukit itu (hati-hati jatuh ya!), kita bisa melihat kota Kalambaka di bawah sana! Kabut yang tengah turun malah bikin pemandangannya tambah mempesona kalo menurut gue. Serasa sedang berdiri di istana atas awan sambil mengintip daratan di bawah sana, hehehehe.

Kembali ke taxi tour, meskipun hanya supir taksi, tapi pengetahuan dia soal sejarah Meteora menurut gue tidak kalah dengan official tour guide. Dan lagi-lagi, yang paling gue suka, dia itu jago banget ambil fotonya! Orangnya juga ramah banget, jadi serasa punya teman baru! Sekitar jam setengah lima sore, dia mengantar gue ke stasiun kereta untuk menitipkan koper gue di kantor penjualan tiket supaya gue bisa bebas cari makan tanpa perlu repot-repot memikirkan koper besar gue itu. Very thoughtful, huh? You can contact him for a taxi tour at +30 6972164382 or timos_taxi@hotmail.com

Awalnya gue pikir, naik ratusan anak tangga itu akan sangat-sangat bikin gue jadi capek. Kalau dilihat dari tepi jalan, betul-betul tidak disangka gue pernah berhasil naik sampai ke atas sana, hehehehe. Tapi ternyata, semuanya bisa gue lewati tanpa banyak berhenti untuk duduk-duduk dulu lho. Pemandangannya bikin gue jadi lupa sama capeknya! Dan meskipun hanya sendirian, gue tetap enjoy! Malah anehnya, gue justru merasa pergi sendirian itu pula yang udah bikin perjalanan ke Meteora jadi terasa sangat berbeda. Gue jadi lebih banyak mengobrol dengan sesama turis lain, atau bahkan, dengan si taxi driver gue juga!

Finally, there’s nothing else I can say other than… Meteora is a MUST visit when you’re in Greece. Just come and prove it with your bare eyes!

P.s.: Banyak yang bilang kereta menuju Kalambaka itu bikin bingung, tapi kalau menurut gue sih, gampang-gampang aja tuh. You will just know which train you should take. Yang agak rumit hanya saat cari tempat duduknya saja. Supaya cepat, lebih baik tanya ke petugas! Kemudian jangan ragu bertanya jika kamu melihat ada orang lain yang malah duduk di bangku yang sudah kamu reserve. Di Yunani itu memang sudah biasa asal ambil tempat duduk orang lain yang dikira masih kosong. Oh iya, beli tiket kereta secara online harganya malah lebih murah lho. Just visit http://www.trainose.gr for online reservation.

Sometimes, All that We Need is Just a Break

Last Friday was really one of those exhausting days in life. So many things went wrong, everything ran so fast that I barely had a moment to breath, so many plans didn’t work out in a way I desired, so little times yet so many works remained undone… Not to mention that I literally feel extremely tired everytime I wake up from sleep in the morning.

At some point, I couldn’t help myself but wondering… When will this madness end? Will it ever end in the first place?

But then on Saturday, I had a lovely day. After being occupied with lots of works for a while, I finally had a chance to do one thing that I always love to do: went shopping. As much as I love shopping online; which I did a lot more often lately, walk along the mall and carry the shopping bags on my own hands are somehow irreplaceable.

I love the sounds of the hangers in a small boutique. The smell of new books in a bookstore. I love hunting, fitting, and paying for the stuffs I love to buy. And just like that, I forgot my things to do back at work. I forgot how stressful this life can be. I forgot all the disappointment and failure that brought me down. And then at the end of the day, I asked myself, why should I want this madness to end? My life is running so fast, but thanks to that, it also brought me faster to the things I always dreamed of in life.

You know… that last shopping day was actually no ordinary shopping day. It was a shopping trip to buy the things I need for the upcoming vacation trip by the end of this week.

I bought a pair of sandals, and when I did, I picture myself walking on a white sandy beach. I also bought a new beach bag that fits my snorkel, and when I saw it, all that I could think of was the beauty of under the sea. I also bought a sunblock, travel size toiletries, medicines, all of the small things that will come in handy during my trip!

All that joys on last Saturday has told me this one big thing: I simply need a break. It’s not about my job, it’s not about the battles I’ve lost, it’s not about me having no idea about my own life. It’s simply about me doing all other things that I love to do. I love working and pursuing my dreams, but a nonstop run will only kill myself. It’s just like traveling. No matter how much I love it, a nonstop trip will only make me dying over a boredom.

I need to wake up in a beautiful place knowing that a new adventure will soon begin. I need to wander and get lost and made a discovery along the way. I need to jump off to the water and make that blue sea as my pool. I need to go to bed at night knowing that I still have another day to travel and even later in my last night, I will be able to tell myself that I’m ready to get back to my real and wonderful life back at home.

Again sometimes, all that we need is just a break, a very good one. Reward ourselves for all the hard works, the sleepless nights, and all the pain and tears we had along the journey. Relax, have fun, and when I’m back, I will be in my very best state to figure out the next best thing in life. What’s next? What do I really want? And how do I get there? Well, let’s keep those questions until my vacations ends! 😉

Happy Monday and happy holiday for those who celebrate! 🙂

You’re More Successful than You Realize

Last night, I had a quite long chat with an old friend and I told him how I felt like I hadn’t had enough in my career path. I said, “I’m not yet satisfied with my career achievement. It’s not that I’m not grateful, it’s just that I haven’t reached a point where I think; this is it.”

I do really feel that way about myself. It feels like I haven’t done much enough for the companies I’ve worked for. As much as I’m proud of being a part of my current Company, I still feel like I haven’t found that one thing I really want to do for the rest of my life. I also don’t feel like I’ve learned much enough in my life, I’m not yet as good as I want me to be, and I still have a so long way to go before defining my career as a success.

And then a few hours later, I found this video. I watched it, and it gave me chills! And yeah… a little bit of tears came out, just a little bit 😉

I don’t know how much score will be given by my families or best friends about my success, but it got me thinking… maybe, I’ve been too tough to myself. It’s good to be the hardest critic to myself, but maybe, it’s been over the top. And again, it reminded me once again to be thankful for all I have.

Yes, it’s still true that it takes a really long time for me just to figure out the next best thing in life. But hey, good things take time, don’t they?

And yes, it’s also true that I haven’t been somewhere I really want me to be… but I’ll get there! I know I’ll get there.

So maybe, I just need to be a little bit more kind to myself. Just one rejection doesn’t necessarily mean the whole years I’ve been working on is a failure. Other mediocre gets the same job with mine doesn’t make me out of the blue on the same average level with them. Been struggling in pursuing my big dreams doesn’t necessarily mean that I have failed either. I only fail once I give it up, right?

Life is still a long way to go. I haven’t failed, I just haven’t arrived in my final destination because I’m a little bit lost along the way. But that’s okay! As long as I keep on going, then I’m already on a right direction. For now, all I need to do is taking a deep breath, smile, give applause for myself, and continue running toward my finish line. I still don’t think that I have been as successful as I wish I were, but perhaps it’s true, I’m actually more successful than I realize.

And well, maybe, it’s a sign that it’s okay to reward myself a fancy trip, a little bit over budget, in my Greece trip this month, no? 😉

P.s.: Tomorrow is another Monday, let’s continue the race!

Love Yourself Enough to Walk Away

Have you ever stopped loving someone just because loving them makes you feel like you don’t love yourself? That kind of feeling that makes you feel bad about everything. You know that they are not the right person, it’s not going to happen, you’ve got to move on, and so on.

Lately I realize… The love to ourselves can be so powerful. We should know that we deserve better. We deserve something real. We deserve a happy ending. And it’s not going to happen unless we let go. The courage to leave all those hopes behind and the belief that someday we’ll get there is an enormous power for us to move forward.

Believe me when I say that it’s not a non sense at all. It’s just so true! You should believe that you will be just fine. Staying where you are is the one torturing you. It’s not even him or her that tortures you, it’s your decision to hang on that eventually kills you. Don’t do it to yourself! Give yourself some credits and live with dignity.

I know that moving on is never an easy thing. No matter how hard we try to keep ourselves busy, we will still think of it everytime we pause. We barely sleep at night and once we do, it even haunts us in our sleep! But again, believe me, the love to ourselves is a power. It will keep us strong, it will keep us going, it will give us a faith that we’ve done the right thing for ourselves.

Finally, someone who loves themselves will always believe that the right person will come along. If you love yourself enough, you won’t insist changing the wrong one to end up as the only one. You will believe that good things take time, and you will take your time. Someday you’ll get there, and you know what… you will when you believe!

Love yourself enough to walk away. You’ve got to know that when it’s over, it’s over.

Have a nice weekend!

My Travel Wish List: What’s Next?

Ini dia kebiasaan gue tiap tahunnya: saat persiapan untuk upcoming trip sudah hampir selesai, gue akan langsung sibuk bertanya-tanya; selanjutnya mau ke mana? Sebetulnya ada banyaaaak banget tempat yang ingin gue kunjungi, tapi untuk blog kali ini hanya akan gue tulis top three-nya saja. Isi list ini gue tulis berdasarkan mood gue hari ini, jadi belum tentu besok-besok masih sama urutan tiga besarnya, hehehehe.

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JAPAN IN WINTER

Yup, gue memang udah pernah satu kali liburan ke Jepang, tapi gue masih pengen balik lagi! From all Asian countries I’ve visited, Japan is the best! Gue suka sama suasana kotanya, sistem transportasinya, objek wisatanya, makanan dan macam-macam desserts-nya! Itu sebabnya, saat baca artikel soal monyet salju yang suka berendam di kolam air panas selama winter, gue langsung bertekad, “Gue harus balik lagi ke Jepang!”

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MALDIVES

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Entah sejak kapan, gue punya cita-cita pergi honeymoon ke Maldives. Cukup 1 minggu, tapi pindah-pindah hotel tiap dua malam sekali. Salah satunya, menginap di hotel yang ada di gambar! Ya kalaupun nanti enggak kesampaian pergi ke Maldives dalam rangka honeymoon, pokoknya gue harus udah ke sana sebelum pulaunya keburu tenggelam, hehehehe.

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WEST EUROPE

Enggak seperti kebanyakan orang yang lebih memilih ‘memborong’ banyak negara dalam satu kali perjalanan, gue lebih memilih untuk fokus di 2 negara saja: Prancis dan Italia. Ada beberapa desa di Prancis yang ingin gue datangi, dan juga Roma dan Venesia di Italia. Hanya 2 negara itu saja bisa habis hampir 2 minggu!

Masalahnya adalah… gue maunya pergi ke West Europe berdua dengan spouse gue nanti. Kayaknya gambaran pergi ke sana bareng teman-teman itu terasa agak-agak enggak pas kalo buat gue. You know… it should be a romantic getaway, hehehehe.

Our Mr. Right was Once a Mr. Wrong

A few days ago, my friends and I met up with one old friend just to catch up after a while not seeing each other. That one old friend who is known as the most wanted guy. Young, smart, good looking, and extremely excellent at his job, but you know, he was that kind of guy whom we thought only dated girls for fun.

That night, this old friend had to disagree about a common statement saying that all the guys on earth always love collecting trophies. By trophy we meant chasing girls and getting them as their new trophy. The excitement to flirt and the satisfaction when she said yes was just addicting. However according to this one guy, that statement was not always true.

More or less, he told us, “Not all guys. Real man doesn’t need trophy. Real man knows what he wants and he will go for it, whatever it takes. Being afraid of the commitment is just bullshit.”

His statement surprised me for a reason. I knew that he was just in love with someone, but I never thought that one new mystery girl could change his point of view until that much. I never thought of him as a committed guy, never at all, until the dinner that night.

Our long chat that night reminded me of one other guy from my past. He had everything I need from a guy, except his willingness to fight for me. I tried to console myself saying that it was just who he was. He wouldn’t bother fighting for a girl because being with someone was never a part of his long term plan anyway. Just like that, I labelled him as another Mr. Wrong to me.

More than three years later, I found my way to move on and ‘restart’ my friendship with him. It’s never as close as it used to be, but it’s still close enough to let me know that he’s a changed man. When I told him I was not really concerned about being single, he replied, “You just haven’t met the right person yet. I also didn’t picture myself being married, until I met my fiance.”

The chat continued, until at the end, I just knew… My Mr. Wrong has turned to be a Mr. Right for someone else.

I have one other friend who also has changed to be a Mr. Right for his soon-to-be wife. He was uncertain about his feeling to his fiance, he was once wondering if he should get back with his ex instead, but then he realized that he always repeated the same mistake: looking back to the past and pushing away the present. And then later, he would miss the girl that he used to push away! Learning from his past, he tried to be committed to his girlfriend, seeing her as who she is, until he finally knew, “She is the girl that I’m going to marry.”

See? A guy needs to be a Mr. Wrong once or a few times before finding himself a the right one. That’s the reason why I’m not too worried for being single at this age. I simply believe that he is out there, still learning how to be a Mr. Right for me. When he’s ready, I’m ready, we will find our way.

That One Painful E-mail, a Few Years Ago

A few days ago, my boss told me that he admired how knowledgeable I was. I joined Lazada just one year ago yet according to him, I knew so many details that I looked like an e-commerce expert already. I only smiled, not so much flattered since I already heard similar compliments from many other else a few times before. And everytime people ask me the secret behind it, all that I can think of is that one night a few years ago.

That day, I was almost one year working for my previous employer. I had an assignment from headquarter office that I needed to complete right away. It was just a simple sales report per product category, yet somehow, I kept making mistakes over and over again. The Group CFO was waiting for that report and I seemed to piss her off.

A few hours later, after so many reworks from my end, that report was finally done. And then before I went home, I received a new e-mail from my direct boss; the local CFO. That one e-mail that I never thought I would ever have in my inbox.

So apparently, that Group CFO sent another e-mail to my boss without putting me in the CC. She told my boss that I was technically good but I clearly needed to learn more about our Company. She advised my boss to guide me more about the industry, the product, the way it worked in another division… In short, that e-mail really made me feel like I was not good enough.

Knowing that my boss let me read that painful e-mail gave me the idea that he approved the Group CFO’s statement about my performance. And no kidding, it was just like a slap on my face! I had worked so hard to fix so many things but turned out I was not good enough just because I couldn’t identify the difference between one products with another. Seriously… was it for real?

Yes, at the beginning, I was angry. I did apologize to my boss, but deep in my heart, I was so upset. But then I asked myself… How could I fail such simple task? What was the root cause? It took me quite some times to get there, but I finally admitted that my bosses were right. It was not about me being stupid, it was just that I didn’t put so much effort to learn about the business my company engaged.

That one short e-mail has finally changed the way I work. It’s not only me and my division, it’s about me and the whole company. Even though I’m not a salesperson, I still need to understand the products we sell. How can I analyze the product profitability without knowing the specifications? I also don’t work in Ops team, but how can I make a business process improvement if I have no clue on their daily procedures? At the end of the day, that shocking e-mail has contributed one new key strength on my performance.

Apart from learning the importance of in-depth business understanding, what happened that day has made me learn one other most important rule to live by: good critics is not comforting, but it’s certainly building a better us inside. That’s simply a process on being a grown-up: you make mistake and you learn from it. Cursing and telling the world that you did nothing wrong while clearly you’ve just made a terrible mistake will bring you nowhere. You will only repeat the same mistake over and over again.

Finally, all that I can say that there’s no top achiever on earth that was as good as they are today in their very first day working a few years back. They all started on the same line with their colleagues, but their efforts to always make an improvement and their willingness to learn from their mistakes were simply the things that brought their careers up to the next levels. You don’t need to be born genius, you only need to have that one big heart to tell yourself that you can be wrong.

Let’s make mistake, learn from it, and have an awesome Monday!

Traveling Tips #1: How to Save Your Energy & Stay Comfort During the Trip

Gue udah sering baca traveling tips standar soal pakai alas kaki yang nyaman, tata cara packing yang efisien dan masih banyak lagi… Traveling tips yang udah banyak bantu gue di masa-masa masih newbie beberapa tahun yang lalu. Kemudian kali ini, gantian gue sendiri yang kepingin berbagi traveling tips yang gue pelajari dari pengalaman gue pribadi. Siapa tahu, ini bisa jadi tips yang bermanfaat!

  1. Legging yang pas badan (jangan terlalu ketat) akan terasa lebih nyaman daripada celana jeans. Kalau mau pakai jeans, cari ukuran pas badan yang tidak memerlukan ikat pinggang. Tekanan dari ikat pinggang bisa bikin kita menjadi cepat pegal;
  2. Pilih koper dengan empat roda di bawahnya. Jika sudah punya koper roda empat, jangan dibawa dengan cara ditarik dari depan! Letakkan koper dengan posisi tegak sejajar di samping kita dan genggam ujung handle-nya sambil terus berjalan. Ini betul-betul menghemat tenaga lho;
  3. Bawa toiletries dan produk kecantikan lainnya dalam ukuran serba mini. Jangan membebani koper kita dengan cairan yang tidak akan habis selama perjalanan. Save your energy!
  4. Gunting kuku kaki sebelum perjalanan. Semakin sering kita berjalan kaki, semakin besar kemungkinan kuku kaki kita yang panjang itu melukai kulit jari lain yang berada persis di sebelahnya;
  5. Jika bepergian menggunakan sandal terbuka atau alas kaki lain yang tidak memerlukan kaus kaki, ada baiknya pakai body lotion dulu beberapa menit sebelum bepergian tiap harinya. Cukup efektif untuk mengurangi resiko kaki lecet;
  6. Tidak perlu jalan kaki terburu-buru. Atur jadwal perjalanan sedemikian rupa sehingga kita tidak perlu berjalan cepat untuk mengejar jadwal keberangkatan kereta, misalnya. Cukup jalan santai dan nikmati suasana kota!
  7. Hati-hati saat mengangkat dan membawa koper, jangan sampai koper kita itu membentur badan kita sendiri. Hal inilah yang seringkali tanpa kita sadari meninggalkan memar di badan kita ini;
  8. Selain obat untuk luka luar, jangan juga lupa bawa Counterpain atau yang sejenisnya. Ini ampuh banget untuk mengurangi rasa pegal;
  9. Harus tetap makan seperti biasa! Jika sudah terbiasa makan sehari 3 kali, maka mau seburuk apapun makanan di tempat liburan, kita tetap harus makan sehari 3 kali. It’s simply your basic need to help you surviving the day; dan
  10. Jika ada budget lebih, maka jangan pelit untuk membayar extra baggage di pesawat, terutama jika perjalanan kamu melibatkan multiple flights. Semakin lama kita berurusan dengan beban berat, maka kita akan semakin cepat merasa capek selama di perjalanan.

Save your energy, stay healthy, and enjoy your trip!

Let’s Forgive Our Friends for Saying All of Those Stupid Stuffs

Hari ini gue menemukan satu friendship quote yang kemudian menginspirasi gue untuk menulis blog ini. Dikutip dari serial TV A to Z episode 11: “Best friends are the ones who stay supportive even when the other one says something idiotic.”

Hal ini mengingatkan gue kepada orang-orang yang sudah menjadi sahabat gue bertahun-tahun lamanya. What makes them so special? Because they forgive me for saying so many idiotic stuffs all these years!

Misalnya, gue cenderung mengulang pola yang sama tiap kali sedang jatuh cinta. Bingung harus gimana, sibuk mengumpulkan dan menebak ‘pertanda-pertanda’, naik-turun emosi gue yang seolah tidak ada habisnya, dsb dsb. You know… those stupid things that you say and do when you fall in love.

Atau kemudian, curhatan mellow dan lebay-nya gue di saat sedang patah hati. Gue bisa menghabiskan waktu lama hanya untuk mencurahkan hal yang itu-itu saja. Hal-hal yang kalo dipikir sekarang-sekarang ini, “Kenapa dulu gue mesti sampe sebegitunya amat ya?”

I know that all of them sound stupid, boring, wasting time and so on… but my best friends just never push me away. They keep listening and being supportive all the times!

Itu juga sebabnya, saat gantian teman-teman yang sedang punya masalah, gue tidak lantas nge-judge, bersikap sinis, membalas dengan sindiran, apalagi bersikap tidak peduli dengan gue cuekin begitu aja… Gue enggak mau membuat suasana hati mereka malah jadi lebih buruk daripada sebelumnya. I’m just trying to understand… saying stupid things can happen to anyone of us, including the smartest ones.

Makanya kalo menurut gue, sebagai sesama manusia biasa, maklumi saja hal-hal bodoh dan tidak penting yang diucapkan oleh teman-teman kita di saat-saat sulit dalam hidup mereka. Jika tidak ada yang bisa kita bantu, maka sekedar mendengarkan saja sudah lebih dari cukup. Malah sebetulnya kadang-kadang, seseorang itu hanya butuh untuk didengarkan. It’s simply everything they need just to feel better.

Begitu pula soal curhatan teman yang isinya itu-itu saja. Misalnya, mereka sering curhat soal bosnya tapi toh masih saja bekerja di perusahaan yang sama. Atau curhat soal kelakuan pacarnya tapi masih saja pacaran dengan cowok yang sama. Sering mengeluh belum tentu berarti mereka ingin menyerah! Mereka hanya ingin melepas beban guna menguatkan hati untuk tetap bertahan. They want to fix the situation and they need our support as their best friend!

Gue tipe orang yang percaya keakraban pasti akan memunculkan sisi lain dari semua orang yang pernah kita kenal. Jika kita masih belum menemukan sisi ‘unik’ dari seseorang, maka artinya kita belum benar-benar mengenal orang tersebut. Bahkan orang yang paling pendiam dan tertutup sekalipun akan mulai menunjukkan sisi ‘bodohnya’ hanya kepada orang-orang yang mereka percaya.

Makanya kalau menurut gue, jika teman kita mempercayakan kita untuk melihat sisi lain dalam diri mereka, sudah seharusnya kita lebih merasa tersanjung daripada malah merasa terganggu. Atau yang lebih buruk lagi, jangan merasa terganggu dengan kebodohan teman-teman kita tapi malah tetap menuntut mereka untuk bisa mengerti kebodohan kita sendiri. It’s really not fair!

As we all know, living as a grown up is very tough. Yet I am still a believer that a good friend who listens will always make our life easier. And once again, good friends are the ones who stay supportive even when the other one says something idiotic. So guys, let’s forgive our friends for saying something stupid as well as they forgive us for wasting their times for the same silly stuffs. It’s Eid week and it’s perfect chance to forgive each other, isn’t it? 😉