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Let’s Forgive Our Friends for Saying All of Those Stupid Stuffs

Posted on: July 19, 2015

Hari ini gue menemukan satu friendship quote yang kemudian menginspirasi gue untuk menulis blog ini. Dikutip dari serial TV A to Z episode 11: “Best friends are the ones who stay supportive even when the other one says something idiotic.”

Hal ini mengingatkan gue kepada orang-orang yang sudah menjadi sahabat gue bertahun-tahun lamanya. What makes them so special? Because they forgive me for saying so many idiotic stuffs all these years!

Misalnya, gue cenderung mengulang pola yang sama tiap kali sedang jatuh cinta. Bingung harus gimana, sibuk mengumpulkan dan menebak ‘pertanda-pertanda’, naik-turun emosi gue yang seolah tidak ada habisnya, dsb dsb. You know… those stupid things that you say and do when you fall in love.

Atau kemudian, curhatan mellow dan lebay-nya gue di saat sedang patah hati. Gue bisa menghabiskan waktu lama hanya untuk mencurahkan hal yang itu-itu saja. Hal-hal yang kalo dipikir sekarang-sekarang ini, “Kenapa dulu gue mesti sampe sebegitunya amat ya?”

I know that all of them sound stupid, boring, wasting time and so on… but my best friends just never push me away. They keep listening and being supportive all the times!

Itu juga sebabnya, saat gantian teman-teman yang sedang punya masalah, gue tidak lantas nge-judge, bersikap sinis, membalas dengan sindiran, apalagi bersikap tidak peduli dengan gue cuekin begitu aja… Gue enggak mau membuat suasana hati mereka malah jadi lebih buruk daripada sebelumnya. I’m just trying to understand… saying stupid things can happen to anyone of us, including the smartest ones.

Makanya kalo menurut gue, sebagai sesama manusia biasa, maklumi saja hal-hal bodoh dan tidak penting yang diucapkan oleh teman-teman kita di saat-saat sulit dalam hidup mereka. Jika tidak ada yang bisa kita bantu, maka sekedar mendengarkan saja sudah lebih dari cukup. Malah sebetulnya kadang-kadang, seseorang itu hanya butuh untuk didengarkan. It’s simply everything they need just to feel better.

Begitu pula soal curhatan teman yang isinya itu-itu saja. Misalnya, mereka sering curhat soal bosnya tapi toh masih saja bekerja di perusahaan yang sama. Atau curhat soal kelakuan pacarnya tapi masih saja pacaran dengan cowok yang sama. Sering mengeluh belum tentu berarti mereka ingin menyerah! Mereka hanya ingin melepas beban guna menguatkan hati untuk tetap bertahan. They want to fix the situation and they need our support as their best friend!

Gue tipe orang yang percaya keakraban pasti akan memunculkan sisi lain dari semua orang yang pernah kita kenal. Jika kita masih belum menemukan sisi ‘unik’ dari seseorang, maka artinya kita belum benar-benar mengenal orang tersebut. Bahkan orang yang paling pendiam dan tertutup sekalipun akan mulai menunjukkan sisi ‘bodohnya’ hanya kepada orang-orang yang mereka percaya.

Makanya kalau menurut gue, jika teman kita mempercayakan kita untuk melihat sisi lain dalam diri mereka, sudah seharusnya kita lebih merasa tersanjung daripada malah merasa terganggu. Atau yang lebih buruk lagi, jangan merasa terganggu dengan kebodohan teman-teman kita tapi malah tetap menuntut mereka untuk bisa mengerti kebodohan kita sendiri. It’s really not fair!

As we all know, living as a grown up is very tough. Yet I am still a believer that a good friend who listens will always make our life easier. And once again, good friends are the ones who stay supportive even when the other one says something idiotic. So guys, let’s forgive our friends for saying something stupid as well as they forgive us for wasting their times for the same silly stuffs. It’s Eid week and it’s perfect chance to forgive each other, isn’t it? 😉


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Life took me to many unimaginable people. The super kind, the selfless, the brave men, and of course, the mean and rude people, cheaters, liars, hypocrites, extremely arrogant, and all other qualities that got me thinking, “I never thought such people like these do exist!”
But I’ve also come to learn that sometimes, there is a bright side of the darkest people I know. They’re not always good, but they’re not always bad either.
At the end of the day, it helps me to define the people I can bear and the people I can’t stand. And most importantly, it helps me to decide the person I would like to become. I’m not a funny person. I’m not good at mingle with random people. I’m fierce, I’m a straight-talker, I get annoyed easily, and I have this resting b face that makes me look angry all the times. I’m not that kind of person whom people would miss when I’m not around.
But you know what?
I’m okay with all that flaws I have in me. Nobody is perfect, and neither am I. At the same time; everyone on earth is special, and so am I.
I know my worth. I know what I’m very good at. I know what I want and I work hard to make it happen. I’m a go getter and I fight my battles. I’m not an angel, but I’m not a devil either.
I was born to be the very best of myself, and just because I don’t always have what others have, it doens’t make me less as a person inside out. I’m whole just the way I am, and I’m beyond grateful of all that. I know that my career has been a bit of trouble for my personal life. I admit that it feels like a loss to me sometimes, but you know what? I don’t feel sorry about all that, not a even just a little bit.
My career has given me a comfort bed to sleep, taken me to the places I’ve never seen, brought me to the incredible people who end up as my best friends, and most importantly, it has really made my parents proud. I can sleep tight at night knowing that at least, I can support my parents after their retirements.
The way I see it, there’s nothing bad about all that, so why should anybody in my position feel sorry and less proud about their own hard works?
Don’t let anybody make you feel less than who you are. Make yourself and your loved ones proud, and for me, the rest doesn’t matter at all.
Be great, women! Whatever you choose to do for your own life, be great at it and don’t feel sorry for anything good in your life! Happy International Women’s day and stay awesome!

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