Everytime I see a friend who really wants to get married, I will ask them this one question, “Why do you want to get married?” And somehow, I was rarely satisfied with their answers.
“Because at the end, we all have to get married and I’m already in that age.”
“Because almost all of my friends are married.”
“Because I’m not happy being single.”
“Because I envy the married couple.”
Or… “Because my parents told me so.”
I don’t want to judge, it’s their life anyway, it’s just that I will never use the same reason for myself. The way I see it, there is no such a thing like a proper age to get married. Some people are mature enough to get married before 25, but some others are still too selfish for a marriage in their 30’s. I’m also not that kind of person who does something just because everyone does it or just because someone else tells me to do so. I’m happy with my life as it is and I don’t envy someone else’s life.
And then today, I had a long chat with an old friend and it made me ask myself, “Why do I want to get married?”
Okay, now it is my turn to answer my own question… Here are the reasons why I want to get married.
The first reason, I want to have someone who is devoted to share this life with me. I want to have someone who always have my back, someone to share my ups and downs, someone to make life decisions together with me, and someone to be my partner for life. I’ve had enough of people walk out of my life and I really want to have someone who I can rely on for the rest of my life.
The second reason, I want to take a very good care of someone other than myself. People says, it’s a basic female instinct. If you really know me, then it might not sound like me to you, but the truth is, I would really love to play my role as a wife looking after her husband. I want to make sure he lives well, eats right, and I also want him to be happier than he used to be. I simply want to help him to have a better life to live in.
And finally, I want to get married because I know that I will eventually get bored with my life as a single. I really know myself and I know than in the years to come, I will be fed up with similar single problems over and over again. Even right now, I’m already bored with all those random dates and heartbreaks that came with it. Seeing someone new nearly every year is no longer as exciting as it used to be. Settling down with that Mr. Right (I hope he does truly exist, hehehehe) would be all that I really want from now on.
Does that sound like a good reason to get married? I think it is, at least for myself. I really hope that the right person will come along! And of course I also hope, I’m already good enough to be a right person for someone out there. Amiin! 🙂