A few days ago, I had a long chat with one of my best friends about his problem with a girl he just knew. Long story short, apparently that new girl thought that my friend was too aggressive. It confused me. It’s not like he texted her many times in a day! In fact, he didn’t always text that girl everyday the entire week! I don’t think it’s too aggressive at all.
Having said that, deep in my heart, initially I wanted to suggest my friend to play cool. I personally find that he looks more attractive when he is calm and cool.
But then I realized… my friend actually deserves someone better than that girl. He deserves someone who embraces him just the way he is. If she can’t accept his effort to take care of her, then it was her loss, not his. I’ve known this guy for years by now, and I also know that the way he takes care of the people he loves is the very best quality in him. Why should he change it just because a girl came and said it was wrong for him to look after her?
So then I said to my friend, it was not his fault, it was just that girl didn’t share the same chemistry with him.
Many people somehow believe that we have to ‘market’ ourselves differently. Act like someone you’re not until you win your crush’s heart. It may have worked well for most cases, but to me, it just sounds so wrong. Find someone who loves you just the way you are, not the way you make them think you are.
Someone who genuinely loves you is someone who’s capable to see the good things in you. Knowing all your flaws doesn’t stop them from falling for you. They don’t see all the things you already have or the things that you don’t have just yet; they see you far beyond that. They have a strong belief that you’re capable to be more than you already are.
Don’t we all want to be with someone who loves us that much? If the answer is yes, then we will never find one unless we show them who we really are. Just be ouselves and let them decide if they want to take a part in our life or let us go.
Find someone who loves you just the way you are, and love them back, just the way they are.