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Ketika Kita Merasa Nyaman dengan Ketidaknyamanan

Posted on: January 21, 2017

Pernah mati-matian mempertahankan sesuatu hanya karena terlalu malas untuk memulai hal yang baru? Atau sebaliknya… Berkeras meninggalkan sesuatu hanya karena tidak ingin berhadapan dengan resiko dan rintangan yang mungkin datang jika tetap bertahan.

Akhir-akhir ini gue menyadari… Manusia, termasuk diri gue sendiri, bisa bertingkah sangat gegabah dalam mengambil keputusan. Rasa takut atas perubahan, atau rasa takut akan ketidakpastian, membuat kita lebih memilih untuk merasa nyaman (atau setidaknya untuk bertahan) di dalam ketidaknyamanan. 

Saat mempertahankan sesuatu yang sebetulnya tidak lagi baik untuk kita, pada dasarnya kita hanya mengulur waktu untuk mendapatkan sesuatu yang lebih baik untuk kita miliki. Dan pada saat kita melarikan diri dari sesuatu yang kita anggap sulit (meskipun sebetulnya pelarian itu hanya membawa lebih banyak penderitaan), pada dasarnya kita justru sedang melepaskan kesempatan terbaik kita untuk mendapatkan kebahagiaan. Dengan kata lain, ada kalanya, kita tetap lebih memilih bertahan pada rasa tidak nyaman ketimbang memperjuangkan sesuatu yang sifatnya sangat tidak pasti.

Can’t you see? Takut akan kesulitan, perubahan, dan ketidakpastian bisa membuat kita membuang banyak waktu untuk penderitaan yang tidak perlu. Biasanya, kita membela diri dengan berkata, “Ini hanya untuk sementara.” Bisa jadi, memang hanya untuk sementara, TAPI, bagaimana jika kita salah dan malah membuang lebih banyak waktu untuk mempertanyakan hal-hal yang tidak pernah kita lakukan? Hal-hal yang bisa jadi, akan membawa lebih sedikit penderitaan dan lebih banyak kebahagiaan, yang pada akhirnya hanya akan membuat kita bertanya-tanya pada diri kita sendiri, “Kenapa gue tidak lakukan ini sejak awal ya?”

Berawal dari satu masalah yang sangat sepele, akhir-akhir ini gue jadi lebih kritis dalam menilai keputusan gue sendiri. “Do I do this just because this is easy OR because I know this is the very best for me?”

Kadang, hidup yang sudah sulit membuat gue malas mengambil keputusan yang juga sulit, meskipun bisa jadi kenyataannya, hal itu justru membuat hidup gue jadi lebih sulit. Hal ini kembali mengingatkan gue pada satu teori paling dasar dalam hidup gue ini, “You’ll never know until you try. Do your very best, before you give it up.” 


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Life took me to many unimaginable people. The super kind, the selfless, the brave men, and of course, the mean and rude people, cheaters, liars, hypocrites, extremely arrogant, and all other qualities that got me thinking, “I never thought such people like these do exist!”
But I’ve also come to learn that sometimes, there is a bright side of the darkest people I know. They’re not always good, but they’re not always bad either.
At the end of the day, it helps me to define the people I can bear and the people I can’t stand. And most importantly, it helps me to decide the person I would like to become. I’m not a funny person. I’m not good at mingle with random people. I’m fierce, I’m a straight-talker, I get annoyed easily, and I have this resting b face that makes me look angry all the times. I’m not that kind of person whom people would miss when I’m not around.
But you know what?
I’m okay with all that flaws I have in me. Nobody is perfect, and neither am I. At the same time; everyone on earth is special, and so am I.
I know my worth. I know what I’m very good at. I know what I want and I work hard to make it happen. I’m a go getter and I fight my battles. I’m not an angel, but I’m not a devil either.
I was born to be the very best of myself, and just because I don’t always have what others have, it doens’t make me less as a person inside out. I’m whole just the way I am, and I’m beyond grateful of all that. I know that my career has been a bit of trouble for my personal life. I admit that it feels like a loss to me sometimes, but you know what? I don’t feel sorry about all that, not a even just a little bit.
My career has given me a comfort bed to sleep, taken me to the places I’ve never seen, brought me to the incredible people who end up as my best friends, and most importantly, it has really made my parents proud. I can sleep tight at night knowing that at least, I can support my parents after their retirements.
The way I see it, there’s nothing bad about all that, so why should anybody in my position feel sorry and less proud about their own hard works?
Don’t let anybody make you feel less than who you are. Make yourself and your loved ones proud, and for me, the rest doesn’t matter at all.
Be great, women! Whatever you choose to do for your own life, be great at it and don’t feel sorry for anything good in your life! Happy International Women’s day and stay awesome!

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