This morning, I read this one lovely quote by Abdulbary Yahya on Instagram, “Those who love us will correct us.”

And it reminds me of myself… That’s exactly what I always do to the people whom I care about: I try to correct them. It’s not because I feel like I’m always right, it’s just because I do care about these people.

When it looks like they’re making mistakes, I’ll tell them; right on their faces. I won’t just stay quiet and watch them drown. It just doesn’t feel right.

When I want to keep them as a part of my life, I’ll tell them how I feel about them. And that includes when I’m hurt, disappointed, and angry. I tell it all hoping that we’re both aware that we’ve got to find a way to make things right.

I correct them because I want them to be a better one. I want them to be prouder of themselves by doing the right things. I want them to be happier with being the very best version of themselves. I might be wrong, everyone can be wrong, but at least, I make time to give it a try because I want what’s best for them.

I know that I don’t always put the words nicely. I know that the way I take care of someone can seem so tough. But again, if I have to try that hard just to tell you the words, if I still manage to correct you in that kind of tough situation, then that’s just another sign how I really care about your life. I put all that great efforts just for you, not myself. It’s a sign that in that very moment, I think of you more than I think of my own sake.

The truth is, love is not always pretty.

Love between two lovers is not always a beautiful romance. Love is not merely the flowers and candle light dinners.

Love between the families is not only the warmth of a home, but also the tough love to make each other better and wiser.

Love between two best friends is not always a laughter and joy. If you’re always happy with your friendship with them, then probably, you’re not close enough with them.

So again, if I’m willing to fight all those ugly moments just to remind you to do the right things, then I only do that because I truly care about your life. Otherwise, why would I bother to multiply my life problems by picking a fight just to correct you?

So yes, when I care about you, I will try to correct you. And that’s not going to change.

I used to think that I was not so much of family person. I was very into my career (and I still am!), my hobbies, and all the things to do with everything this life has to offer. But then at some point,  as many things happened, many people left and moved on with their very own life, I started to realize that at least, I’ll always have my families to come home.

Everytime I make mistakes, my families always find a way to forgive me.

Everytime I’m sick, my families will be the ones taking care of me.

Everytime I’m hurt, my families will always be on my corner no matter what.

Everytime I’m defeated, my families are there to support my back.

And everytime I’m winning, my families are genuinely celebrating my victories with me.

The real families won’t break my heart just because they envy me. They make time for me. They don’t walk away when things between us got ugly. When things are broken, we fix them together, we don’t throw them all away as if they meant nothing to each and everyone of us. We did fall apart, but we stick together, because what we chase is being a family; the real one, until our very last breath.

At this point, I’ve started believing that we should really find a life partner who has a very strong bond with their own families. Staying close to families for decades is never an easy thing. We make mistakes and we make it up to each other, over and over again. If they manage to do that with their families, then most likely, when someday we are a part of their future families as their husband or wife, they will also be able to commit with us as a lifetime partner.

Put your families first, because at the end of the day, they are the only ones who will always wait for you to come back home.

It’s been just one month, but 2017 has been surprisingly tough to me. Right when I thought things couldn’t get any worse, well it even went farther than I could ever imagine. I could cry, I could blame and hate myself, but I refuse to do all that.

I prefer to have a new hair cut and well-shaped brows. I get my nails done. I take out my old favorite handbag and go to work in style (even if it’s Saturday and I barely see anybody in the office). I watch my favorite TV shows, sing my favorite songs, I eat all that delicious foods (and I finally gain more weights, thank God!), I laugh and I surround myself with the people who bring out the very best in me.

I’ve went so far in my life and I’m not going to stop now. Life is too short to live in misery, and the hard times is the only time that I can prove myself that I am as good as I said I was. I’m not a little girl anymore, I can’t cry and run hugging my Mom everytime I stumble and fall. I won’t try to find an escape from my problems, I’ll be right here, in my place, to keep fighting and winning my war.

And did you know what I learned from all these recent events? I learned that having problems doesn’t necesserily mean that I can only mourn all the day and night! Having problems should never stop me from having fun. Not only it distracts me from all the chaos in my head, but also it helps me to be calm, think straight, and stay wise. It has really made the burdens feel even lighter on my shoulders!

Life as a grown up will never ever be the same as our life as a teenager, let alone a little child. No matter how good you are, how hard you have tried, s*** will still happen anyway. And no matter how kind and nice person that you are, some people will also still throw some kind of s*** right in your face.

Finally, what I’m excited right now is knowing that I will have a rainbow after all these storms. At some point, things will go back on track and I will be one step ahead as a better person by then. And one more thing, I know that after all of this pass, I’m going to have one more “success story” to tell and to be proud of.

Happy weekend and have a great one!