Have you ever felt so depressed that you want to run away from your own life? Feeling so down, sad, angry, confused, upset, all in the same time.
I do. And so does everyone of us.
Nobody says that this life is an easy stuff, especially when things are getting rough. Or when something you least expected turn into a reality. Or maybe, when you find yourself got trapped between difficult choices.
I hate to say this but in fact, no matter how hard you try to have a peaceful life, difficult times will always happen anyway. There’s always that one time where you can’t help but wondering, “How could this happen to me?”
It’s simply inevitable, but it doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be drown in your agony. If it’s not easy to make things get better, at least, you can definitely do something to make yourself feel better. And what do I do to make myself feel better? It’s simple; I only need to find someone to talk.
I need to hear me saying that thought out of my mind.
I need to tell someone what I really feel about it. No sugar coating, no lie, no denial.
I need to speak it up, I simply need to let it out.
Will it solve my problems? Perhaps no, BUT, it will definitely help me to find a way to solve my problems.
It always helps me to reduce my pain. And when my emotion is on a good state, my mind will also work on its very best state to figure out the next steps I should take to make things right.
I know that every people is different. If it works for me, it doesn’t mean it will also work for everyone else. But think again… Why do you think people pays a lot of money just to go talking with a shrink? It’s not about finding someone who is trained to solve your problems, it’s merely about finding someone whom you can trust to hear your problems.
Last week, the Christmas long weekend has been literally a long weekend to me. I lost my appetite, I couldn’t sleep well at night, and I sighed so many times during the days and nights. The situation remained along the weekdays until I decided to take my phone and reached out an old friend of mine. It was actually not a super big problem, but if I didn’t do anything, that problem would only get bigger and kill me inside.
And you know what… I was so right to get him for help! Around 4 hours chat and I felt so relieved. I finally slept well and ate a lot after waking up. I still had no clue what to do next, but at least, I simply knew that everything would be just fine.
Human was not created to live alone. I know that talking with someone can be risky. What if they can’t be trusted? Or what if they are not interested to listen to our problems? But still… we need someone to just sit and listen to us. It’s not about looking for their approvals or advice, it’s solely about us needing to let it out.
I used to be a very closed book person when I was teenager. And what was the result? I felt so lonely and so alone even when I was actually sitting in a crowded place. I am happier when I have someone to share my stories with. Believe me when I say, you are wiser when you are happier.
Find someone you can trust, a good listener who knows you well or willing to get to know you better, talk to them, and you will see how I am right about this matter.