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5 Hal Yang Bisa Bikin Gue Iri

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Pada dasarnya, gue bukan tipe orang yang suka iri. Gue percaya tiap orang punya kelebihan dan kekurangannya masing-masing, ditambah, gue juga udah happy and satisfied with myself. Tapi tetep aja, namanya juga manusia, gue masih aja suka iri sama cewek-cewek lain. Dalam hal apa saja? Check this out!

  1. Cewek yang jago nyetir. Di mata gue, cewek yang jago nyetirnya itu keren banget lah. I’ve been learning how to drive since a long time ago, yet I still don’t have the courage to drive without somebody else sitting next to me;
  2. Cewek yang mukanya mulus tanpa perlu perawatan khusus. Beda banget sama muka gue, sekali aja lupa cuci muka, paginya pasti langsung ada dua atau tiga jerawat baru. Dulu muka gue pernah jerawatan agak parah, baru mendingan setelah pake produknya Clinique yang harganya relatif mahal kalo buat gue. Ngiri banget lah, sama cewek-cewek yang mesti keluar banyak uang cuma buat dapetin muka mulus…
  3. Orang yang bisa pergi berlibur berkali-kali dalam setahun. Kalo gue? Cuti dalam setahun cuma 12 hari! Mau unpaid leave tapi kok ya sayang kalo gaji gue sampe dipotong cuma karena jalan-jalan. Belum lagi gue punya kerjaan yang sebenernya susah banget buat ditinggal 😦 Jadi sudahlah… untuk sementara, one long trip every year udah cukup buat gue;
  4. Cewek yang pasangannya masuk ke dalam kategori gue banget. Dan sedihnya, cowok-cowok yang tipe-gue-banget-itu semuanya udah punya pacar atau istri. Dalam hati gue sampe suka mikir, “This girl is so lucky to have him.” Tapi untuk yang satu ini, mungkin gue enggak akan lagi ngerasa iri kalo gue juga udah nemuin Mr. Right gue sendiri, hehehehe; dan
  5. Cewek-cewek yang masih bisa pake super high heels. Kenapa gue sampe iri sama mereka? Karena tanpa high heels pun, tinggi gue udah 175 CM, sedangkan banyak banget high heels di toko sepatu yang menurut gue tuh keren-keren banget! Tapi sudahlah… meskipun demikian, gue tetep cinta banget kok, sama kaki panjang gue ini, hehehehe.

Sekian blog nggak penting gue hari ini. Now I’m going back to work 😉

20 Random Things About Me

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  1. I don’t believe in zodiac, shio, and so on;
  2. I had a few nicknames from my friends: Ipeh (just because a friend couldn’t spell ‘R’), Uler (because of my last name), Riba (because we just had a chapter about this in class and he found that sounds similar to my name), Nenek, and Chiripa (because of Dulce Maria was such a hit);
  3. I hate sports and I can’t swim;
  4. I kinda hate it when people refuse to pose beside me while taking a picture just because I’m too tall to them;
  5. I also hate it when people says that I have what I’ve earned just because of luck. It’s such an understatement to me. I work hard for everything I’ve achieved;
  6. Back to junior high school, my life was very boring until someone came into my life and taught me how to dream big. I will always owe him for the rest of my life;
  7. I never cheated in the college, not even once. I studied very hard back then;
  8. I’m not good at numbers, but I ended up working as an accountant. I even used to hate accounting back in high school;
  9. My career milestones: started my first job when I was 21, got promotion to Senior level on 23, Assistant Manager on 24, Manager on 25, and Senior Manager on 27. I thought my achievement was awesome, until I found out that the CEO in my Company is on my age!
  10. It took me one year just to learn how to wear contact lenses;
  11. I’m addicted with dark brown eye shadow. I can’t leave the house without it;
  12. I’m a strong believer that beauty, brain, and behavior is not only in beauty pageant. Every girl can get it as long as she’s willing to try hard. We can’t be perfect, but we can be awesome 😉
  13. I’m not good at telling people how I feel. I never say “I love you” to others, not even once;
  14. I’m not good at saying goodbye either. Hug each other and say “I’ll be missing you” is just too much to me;
  15. I used to hate babies until my nephew was born. He’s the only one baby I’ve ever hold on my arms;
  16. When my cats died, I cried much louder than when I cried over the boys who broke my heart;
  17. I was still afraid of ghost until I was a teenager. I used to put an Al-Qur’an beside my pillow to encourage me sleeping alone in my bedroom! But now… I’m not afraid to work overtime alone even in a ghostly office, hehehehe;
  18. I often put something important in my own safe place but then I forget where I put that stuff. The idea of that ‘safe place’ is too extraordinary sometimes 😀
  19. I’ve started writing in a diary since I was a kid. That’s how I learned to write. My blog is my new diary anyway;
  20. I’ve started to write a novel since years ago and never managed to finish it. It’s always a part of my new year’s resolution over and over again. Well, maybe I’ll finish it next year, hehehehe.

I Should be Fine

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Today, I suddenly feel like everything will be fine. I may not get everything I want to have. I may even lose that one big thing I always wanted. Somehow I feel, I should be fine.

I have my long-lasting best friends who are always there when I’m down. The ones who always find a way back to me. The ones whom I hope, will always be a part of every stage in my life.

I have great colleagues whom I can trust. The ones to laugh with everyday. The ones who help me out when I need the most.

I have a decent job. I have achieved more that I pictured I would do at this age. And no matter where I work, I always have those bosses who trust and support me tremendously.

I have a loving family who always accept me just the way I am. The ones who will always stand by me. The ones who take a very good care of me.

I’m not perfect, but I never stop trying to bring out the best in me.

I’m not a beauty queen, but I’m happy to see myself in the mirror everyday before I go to work.

I’m not yet a billionaire, but I’m grateful for every little thing I have in life.

And I don’t have a boyfriend yet, but I know how it feels to be loved.

After all of the things I write in this post, how can I not be fine? Life is up and down. I will gain and I will lose some. People come and go. Sometimes I am wanted, but sometimes I am rejected. But that’s okay, because once again, I should be just fine. I don’t need to have everything, and I don’t need to always win, just to be happy.

Seven Keys to Happiness

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Gue tipe orang yang percaya bahwa kita enggak perlu jadi orang yang paling kaya raya, paling cantik jelita, paling pintar, dan paling segala-galanya hanya untuk jadi bahagia. Being happy for me is NOT that complicated. We don’t need to have everything, and we don’t need to be perfect, just to be happy. 

How do I do that? Here are seven keys of happiness that always work on me. Check them out!

  1. Mendalami hobi. Kenapa gue suka ngeblog? Because it makes me happy, as simple as that. Belum jadi blog yang punya jutaan penggemar aja gue udah happy kok. I enjoy every process of it, from writing until replying the comments (only if it’s nice and necessary), not to mention new friends I get from this blog. For me it’s so much fun!
  2. Mengejar cita-cita. Kata siapa cita-cita itu hanya untuk anak-anak sampai dengan usia remaja? Sometimes, it takes a lifetime to pursue our biggest dream, but that’ okay! Punya cita-cita bikin hidup kita jadi terasa lebih bermakna, less boring, dan tentunya, bikin kita jadi a happier person. Apalagi kalau nanti mimpi itu jadi kenyataan!
  3. Traveling and see the world. Ini sebenernya gabungan antara hobi dan cita-cita sih ya. Mungkin itu yang bikin gue jadi double-happy tiap kali pergi jalan-jalan 😉 Bahkan anehnya ya, meskipun misalnya ada hal-hal yang tidak menyenangkan selama perjalanan, yang namanya traveling selalu bikin gue jadi kepengen lagi dan lagi! How can’t I? Sekedar lihat foto-foto liburan yang muncul di screensaver laptop, atau sekedar menceritakan pengalaman jalan-jalan gue aja udah bisa bikin gue ngerasa happy lagi, hehehehe;
  4. Dress up, mix and match, wearing heels, and put a little make-up. Gue percaya setiap perempuan itu punya kecantikannya sendiri-sendiri, tinggal gimana cara memaksimalkannya aja. Kenapa banyak fashion blogger yang suka posting outfit of the day-nya mereka? Gue percaya bukan untuk pamer, tapi karena hal itu (baca: usaha untuk mempercantik diri dan membagi hasilnya dengan orang lain) bikin mereka ngerasa happy. Lagi-lagi, kita enggak perlu jadi super-fashionable hanya untuk ngerasa happy. Asalkan kita merasa nyaman dan merasa lebih cantik karenanya, maka itu saja sudah lebih dari cukup;
  5. Surround myself with genuine friends. Catat yah… genuine friends. Fake friends enggak masuk hitungan. It feels good to have some friends to call at night when life knocks us down, some friends who really care, who look back into our past and laugh it all together, and some friends who always stay with us in every stage of our lives;
  6. Get rid of toxic people. Definisi toxic people buat gue sederhana aja: jika keberadaan mereka seringkali bikin gue ngerasa luar biasa enggak nyaman, enggak happy, dan bikin gue ngerasa constantly not good enough, maka mereka adalah toxic people versi gue. Someday I’ll write more about this one; dan
  7. Push myself to be better and better than before. Sebagai manusia biasa, gue juga suka lepas kendali. Too proud of my achievements can make me cocky, too stress with my job can make me so mean, and too busy with my life can make me careless. Gue sadar hal-hal apa saja yang harus gue perbaiki, dan saat gue udah berhasil memperbaiki hal tersebut, rasanya tuh puas banget sama diri gue sendiri. I know it’s not an easy thing to do, it’s a never ending process, and people may not be able to see this, but as long as I know that I’m making an improvement, it’s already enough to make me feel good about myself.

Tujuh hal di atas so far udah bikin gue survive di tengah up and down hidup gue ini. When I’m happy with my life, even the most horrible and hardest things in life will feel easier to get through. Menurut gue, sayang banget kalo kita cuma pasrah saja dengan unhappiness yang kita rasakan. Makanya, tiap kali gue mulai ngerasa unhappy secara terus menerus, gue akan coba evaluasi kembali… which key is currently missing?

Find your keys and have a happy life, folks!

Six Random Stuffs That Make Me Laugh

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Gue tipe orang yang suka menghibur diri dengan baca atau nonton yang lucu-lucu. Selalu efektif buat ngurangin rasa sedih. Di tulisan kali ini, gue kepingin share tontonan dan bacaan yang efektif bikin gue ketawa ngakak! Bisa dicoba, siapa tahu apa yang gue anggap lucu juga bisa bikin kalian tertawa lebar.

TV show: How I Met Your Mother

Dari semua serial TV yang pernah gue tonton, ini dia satu serial yang paling gue suka. Saking lucunya, gue bisa ketawa sampe kedengeran dari luar kamar. Jalan ceritanya bukan cuma lucu, tapi juga cukup inspiring. Ada aja life and love lesson yang bisa gue dapati dari serial ini.

Ceritanya tentang perjalanan panjang Ted Mosby selama 8 tahun lamanya hanya untuk menemukan si pujaan hati, yang kemudian menjadi ibu dari anak-anaknya. Selama 8 tahun itu, Ted berkali-kali jatuh cinta kepada the wrong ones. Kebodohan-kebodohan Ted dalam mencari cinta, dan pastinya, ulah teman-teman se-gank dia di serial ini terkenal bisa mengocok perut para penontonnya.

Give it a try! I’m 95% sure you’re gonna love it!

TV show: Friends with Better Lives

Ini serial TV yang masih lumayan baru. Gue lagi seneng nonton ini di channel Starworld. Sama kayak How I Met Your Mother, serial ini juga bercerita tentang satu kelompok pertemanan di usia dewasa. Awalnya gue ngerasa, ada satu cast yang aktingnya kaku dan agak aneh, tapi lama kelamaan, gue jadi terbiasa dan sepertinya, memang image kaku itulah yang ingin disampaikan si penulis cerita.

Kalo dibandingin sama How I Met Your Mother, Friends with Better Lives ini sedikit lebih banyak melempar jokes yang rada-rada berat. Kita mesti mikir dikit dulu untuk mencerna sisi lucu dari lelucon mereka. But once you get it, you’ll find it so funny and unforgettable! Serial ini udah jadi salah satu acara yang gue nanti-nantikan setiap minggunya.

Comic book: Shincan

Ya ya… kesannya shallow banget ya, gue suka baca Shincan? Tapi gimana dong, lucu banget sih, hehehehe. Bukan tipe komik yang bakal gue beliin buat anak atau ponakan gue sih, karena ini kan emang bukan bacaan anak-anak. Tapi justru di situ letak lucunya kan? Hehehehe.

A book based on true story: My Stupid Boss

Pertama kali baca salah satu bukunya, gue langsung suka! Gaya penulisannya terasa pas, saat sedang lebay pun terasa tetap pas, dan pastinya, selalu efektif buat bikin gue ketawa. Ada pula kemiripan-kemiripan karakter si bos yang gue rasa mirip dengan bos-bos gue sendiri yang bikin gue jadi tambah senyun-senyum. Ini satu dari sedikit buku yang berhasil bikin gue ngeborong semua sekuelnya sekaligus. It’s a must read!

Indonesian author: Raditya Dika 

Gue bukan big fan si Raditya Dika sebenernya, tapi gue tetep suka follow Twitter account-nya. Dia suka bikin tweet yang lucu-lucu, atau ngebales tweet dari penggemarnya dengan cara yang nggak kalah lucu. Untuk buku-bukunya gue juga suka, kecuali beberapa judul yang gue anggap terlalu kasar leluconnya buat ukuran gue.

Omong-omong soal Twitter-nya Raditya Dika, gue masih inget saat dia ‘berantem’ sama Mario Teguh via Twitter. Ceritanya, Mario Teguh mengkritik tweets Dika yang suka menyindir kaum jomblo. Ada satu tweet sindirian dari Mario Teguh yang kemudian di-retweet oleh Dika dan diberi komentar pendek: -> Jomblo.

Buat yang suka follow twitter-nya Raditya Dika pastilah ngerti kenapa komentar pendek dia itu gue anggap lucu, hehehehe.

Socmed account: 9GAG

Selain follow 9GAG di Twitter, gue juga sering banget nemuin hasil karya mereka di-share oleh teman-teman gue via berbagai social media lainnya. Kadang ada beberapa lelucon mereka yang bikin gue bingung sih. Udah gue lihatin sampe bermenit-menit lamanya, udah gue baca komentar-komentarnya juga, tapi gue tetep enggak ngerti di mana letak lucunya, hehehe. Tapi di luar itu, gue tetep suka sama hasil karya mereka. Enggak selalu yang berbau-bau humor lho, yang sifatnya menyentuh juga ada. Gue kadang sampe mikir kayaknya gue masih keep Twitter account gue hanya demi follow account-nya 9GAG, hehehehe.

I’m a strong believer that good laugh is the best pain killer. Itu juga sebabnya, kadang kalo lagi sedih, gue suka kontak teman-teman yang pintar melempar lelucon lucu. Tapi yaah… nggak selamanya orang lain itu selalu ada buat kita kan? Makanya, kalo lagi nggak ada orang lain yang bisa bikin gue ketawa, gue tinggal putar DVD buat nonton How I Met Your Mother, mampir ke rak buku buat cari komik-komik lucu, atau ambil HP buat buka Twitter.

Good laugh will never solve your problem, but a good laugh will help you to calm down, think straight, and wise enough to solve all of your problems. Have a good laugh everyone!

20 Rules to Live By

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Based on some other great quotes, life advice from remarkable authors, and of course, based on my own experiences, here are 20 rules I do to live by. You don’t need to agree with this all, your life is your own rule, but I hope at least, it will inspire you to define yours. Enjoy the blog!

  1. Expectation kills your happiness. Set your goals, focus on it but keep your expectation low;
  2. Pick your battle. You don’t need to reply every argument coming to you and you don’t need to be angry for all the things irritating you. Save your energy to fight for something worthy;
  3. But then it’s okay to be angry, as long as the anger gives you more benefit over the harms it may bring;
  4. Say exactly what you mean, ask instead of assuming, and always remember: people are not mind reader!
  5. You can’t please everyone and you don’t have to do that at all. So stop trying so hard to be a ‘people pleaser’;
  6. You don’t need to be friends with ALL people on earth. Having haters is normal, especially if you happen to be an awesome one 😉
  7. Find your happy place, because sometimes, happiness is simply being in the right place. However, at the end of the day, happiness is in your hand. You only need to find a place which suits you the best;
  8. Love yourself first. It’s okay to spend money for decent foods, nice clothes, holiday trips, or any other things those make you happy. Reward yourself for all of the hard works you’ve done;
  9. Don’t be afraid to say “yes” or “no”. Be a brave one!
  10. Every human on earth has fear inside their heart, but the brave people will fight their own fear in order to shape their own destiny;
  11. If it feels wrong, don’t do it. But if it feels right, then you’ve got to do it for whatever it takes;
  12. Dream, believe, and make it happen!
  13. Let go of the things that you can’t control, but before that, make sure that you have given all of your best fights;
  14. Stay away from negative people. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t appreciate your efforts and constantly make you feel bad about yourself;
  15. Find a couple of friends whom you can trust to share your life with. Keeping all of those burdens alone will drive you crazy;
  16. If a guy keeps making you wondering how he feels about you for months, then it’s time to move on. If he really wants you, he will make it obvious. At the end of the day, you won’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want you back;
  17. Think before you speak. Your words will be the sword who kill you back. It’s not easy, but doable;
  18. Learn to forgive. No matter how good they are, their flaws will eventually hurt and break your heart. They’re not perfect, and neither you are;
  19. No matter how cruel and horrible this life is, never ever give up on being a good person. Don’t do revenge, don’t blame people for your mistakes, try to be honest, sincerely help the others and do the right things even when nobody is watching;
  20. At the end of the day, no matter how hard you try, you will never ever be a perfect person. However, never stop doing your best! You don’t need to be perfect, but you’ve got to be awesome!

Idul Fitri: A Perfect Chance to Start Over

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Satu hal yang paling gue suka dari Ramadhan dan Idul Fitri adalah kesempatan untuk kembali memulai dari awal. Dosa-dosa dihapuskan dan seluruh umat saling memaafkan. Karena sebaik-baiknya manusia, pastilah tidak luput dari kesalahan. Begitu pula dengan diri gue sendiri.

Gue tipe orang yang menjunjung tinggi kejujuran. Dalam hal terkecil sekalipun, gue selalu berusaha untuk bersikap dan berkata jujur. I have the courage to tell people the truth, even if it’s not always pretty. Tapi ada kalanya, seringkali tanpa gue sadari, gue tetap pernah mengucapkan kebohongan. I did it in the name of white lie, but who knows… what I called as white lie was actually the safest way to protect myself anyway.

Gue juga pada dasarnya enggak suka berbuat jahat. I really really want to be a good person. Gue sering menolak melakukan sesuatu dengan alasan tidak tega. Tapi tetap ada kalanya, tekanan, konflik yang berkepanjangan, atau mungkin, tuntutan pekerjaan, tanpa gue sadari memaksa gue untuk bersikap sebaliknya. Tanpa pernah gue niatkan, pastilah gue pernah berbuat atau berkata-kata yang dapat menyakiti perasaan orang lain.

Seringkali, segera setelah menyadari gue baru saja melakukan sesuatu yang tidak gue inginkan, gue akan langsung ngerasa nggak enak, menyesal, dsb dsb… Gue tentu akan selalu berusaha keras untuk memperbaiki diri sendiri, tapi tetap saja… gue cuma manusia biasa yang tidak luput dari kesalahan. Sekeras apapun gue berusaha, gue tidak akan pernah bisa jadi sempurna. I was not born to be perfect and people might get hurt by my imperfection.

That’s why I’m so relieved to know that people will at least try to forgive me in this holy day. I’m grateful that they give me a chance to start over, and on top of that, I’m grateful that God give me a chance to redeem my faults.

Sebaliknya, kesadaran yang sama juga mendorong gue untuk belajar memaafkan. Jika masih luar biasa sulit untuk gue bisa memaafkan, gue juga enggak bisa berpura-pura. Tapi setidaknya di dalam hati, gue selalu berjanji pada diri sendiri, pasti akan tiba saatnya gue memaafkan dari lubuk hati gue yang paling dalam.

Lalu bagaimana dengan orang-orang yang tidak pernah memantaskan diri untuk dimaafkan? Well, sometimes, for some people I know, the best way to forgive them is by letting go. Kenapa begitu? Karena dengan gue membiarkan mereka pergi, maka dengan sendirinya, gue sudah tidak lagi memberi mereka kesempatan untuk melakukan hal-hal yang nantinya bikin gue kembali harus bersusah payah hanya untuk bisa memaafkan mereka.

I believe that forgiveness is something that we’ve got to earn. It’s not something which always comes free. Therefore in this opportunity, please do accept my deepest apology. I’m so sorry for every pain I’ve put you through and I hope, you would like to give me a chance to start over.

Happy Ied for my blog readers who celebrate. And of course, happy happy holiday!

Tu Me Manques

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il_570xN.371987770_stnnPeople says, we don’t really know what we feel about somebody until we start missing their presences in our life. And it can happen in every kind of relationships on earth.

I knew how much I cared about my nephew in my first out of town trip after he was born. Knowing that he was sick during my departure made me feel worried all the time. It felt like I wanted to go back home soon just to see that he was okay.

I knew how wonderful my best friends were after I realized how lousy other friends could be. Too bad that the terrible fight we had before made me couldn’t text them just to say hi. There were some times I really wanted to share the news about my life but I couldn’t. When I finally made up with them, it felt like a few parts of me were coming back.

I knew what a great boss that I used to have after knowing that other people might not do the same favors he did to me. It felt bad to realize that he had no obligation to be that good to me but he did. I’m happier with my new life now, I’m okay with my new boss, but frankly sometimes I think, “It would be different if it were him.”

Finally, most of the time, I knew that I loved somebody when they start missing from my life. In the worst scenario, it could happen when they left me for good. My life was falling apart, broken heart, and bla bla bla.  But sometimes, it could also happen in such an unexpected time. If I feel bad knowing that he will leave just for a holiday trip for instance, at that moment I will know I have that one feeling for him.

Unfortunately, I’m not good on missing somebody. I hope I could just grab my phone and text them first. But all that I can do is mourning the long gone past or looking at the calendar and counting days if I know for sure they will still come back. That’s why I really hate missing somebody.

I hate wondering whether they’re also thinking of me. I hate wondering whether they will say hello to me first. I hate wondering whether something will change upon their return. I also hate knowing that I no longer have somebody to talk those stupid things, to laugh those hilarious jokes, to work things out together, or simply just to see them somewhere in my daily life. And for me, it’s not a pleasant thing to feel this way.

Do you know in French, you don’t really say “I miss you” when you actually miss somebody? They will say instead, “Tu me manques” which means “You are missing from me”. It sounds nice to me, and, it describes better how I feel about missing somebody. I miss them, simply because they are missing from my life. And I really really… want to have them back.

Because Yesterday was History, but Today is a Gift

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Pernah nggak sih… kamu berharap dalam hati si mantan pacar nggak akan pernah nemuin orang lain yang lebih baik daripada kita? Atau berharap si musuh bebuyutan kita kelak hidupnya susah dan nggak bahagia? Atau dalam hal pekerjaan, kita berharap si mantan kantor bakal jadi berantakan setelah kita resign dari perusahaan itu?

Gue pernah, dan menurut gue, itu satu perasaan yang sifatnya manusiawi. Hanya saja sekarang gue menyadari, segera setelah kita menemukan a better place, or a better someone, maka semua harapan-harapan buruk akan kita lupakan dengan sendirinya.

That’s how I feel about my past right now.

Melihat salah satu mantan gebetan hidupnya makin nggak bener nggak lagi bikin gue sesumbar, “Untung dulu gue nggak jadi sama dia!” Gue cuma bisa geleng-geleng kepala melihat kebandelannya itu.

Dengar kabar orang yang dulu pernah gue suka setengah mati akan getting married dalam waktu dekat tidak lagi bikin gue lantas freaking out. There’s no longer such a crazy thought like he will get left in the altar or something 😀

Gue juga enggak lagi kepingin tahu kabar dari orang yang pernah bikin gue sakit hati setengah mati. Knowing she screwed up with everything is no longer a headline for me. Toh hidup dia susah enggak bikin hidup gue jadi lebih mudah?

Dan yang terakhir, gue enggak lagi berpikiran si mantan kantor akan kembali berantakan setelah gue tinggal pergi. I’m hoping they will be just fine so that they will never ever contact me again just to fix the chaos they’ve made. Rasa bangga bahwa gue meninggalkan good legacy di sana sudah lebih dari cukup.

And you know what… feeling this way about my past has really made me feel good about myself.

Terus mengenang luka lama bisa bikin gue jadi enggak aware dengan keberadaan cowok-cowok baru yang menaruh perhatian sama gue.

Terus mikirin si musuh bebuyutan bisa bikin gue jadi lupa mikirin hal-hal baik untuk diri gue sendiri.

Dan terus terlibat dengan masalah-masalah di kantor lama bisa bikin gue jadi enggak fokus dengan karier gue di kantor baru.

Intinya adalah, terus melihat ke belakang bisa membuat kita lupa untuk tetap melihat ke depan.

Lalu bagaimana caranya gue bisa sampai pada pemikiran yang very comforting seperti ini? Well, honestly, I don’t know how to answer this. I simply think that once we have a good life, we will eventually lose interest to look back into our past. So why don’t you try to find your better life for the starter?

Coba mulai dari mencintai diri sendiri dulu. Do what you love to do, what makes you happy, which makes you proud of being you and makes you love yourself even more. Konon katanya, love yourself first, and the rest will follow.

Kemudian buat yang teman-teman yang berkarier, jangan takut untuk terus mencoba sampai kita berhasil mendapatkan tempat yang kita inginkan. There is no such a thing like a perfect place to work, but somewhere out there, there is indeed a happy place to work.

Yang terakhir soal orang-orang yang pernah menyakiti perasaan kita di waktu yang lalu… simply think this way: the best revenge for them is being as awesome as we can be 😉 Dan gimana kita bisa bikin diri kita sendiri jadi awesome kalo kita malah sibuk mikirin orang lain yang bahkan tidak kita sukai?

Masih ingat kutipan berikut ini dari Kungfu Panda the movie?

“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called the ‘present’.”

And I prefer to cherish my gift and make the most of it rather than keep looking back into the unchanged history named past.

It’s Not Easy to Be Me, but It’s Fun!

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Traveling always makes me feel so blessed with my life, always more and more than I ever did before. It feels like the most perfect time for me to count my blessings. It makes me feel grateful for everything I’ve achieved, for every loss I’ve survived; I’m simply grateful for the person whom I’ve become.

A few nights ago, I walked along Disneysea Japan, strolling to my most favorite ride in that amusement park for the second time, alone. Two of my friends have made their ways back to our hotel, and the other one decided to watch the firework in the central park. I hugged myself to fight the windy night, looked out of the beautiful lamps along the street, and I told myself… “I’m really happy with the decent life God has given to me.”

I started my career from scratch, from an intern in one of the biggest audit firms worldwide. I began my first trip abroad almost two years afterward, and four years later, there I was… in a country that I always wanted to visit. I was there and I managed to do everything I always wanted to do with my Japan trip!

As I’ve written above, I was alone in the last minutes before the Disneysea park closed, but I was still happy for being there. It made me feel so proud even more! It reminded me of my solo trip to Bangkok last year which made me proud of my courage to travel alone. I’m proud that I know how to be happy even when I had nobody right beside me. I’m so blessed with all of the good friends around, but I’m happy to know that I don’t count my happiness on anybody’s hand.

Five or six years ago, a friend of mine wrote on her Facebook page a status that really impressed me personally. She simply said, “It’s not easy to be me, but it’s fun!”

As the time goes by, as my life as an adult started to go up and down, I eventually feel the way my friend feels about her own life. I also feel, so many times, that it’s not easy to be me… but it’s fun!

It was not easy to work in managerial level when I was only 25 years old, but I’m proud that I have passed those bumpy roads, and I believe that I have been a good leader apart of my young age.

It was not easy to spend long hours at work, to survive the sleepless night, to lose so many times for my personal life, but I’m delighted, I’m even addicted, to the awesome results I’ve got in return.

It is not easy to have many haters who always try to bring me down, but I’m also flattered because they’re actually showing me how much I’ve achieved with my own life.

It is not easy to watch many best friends suddenly walked away for no reasons, but at the same time, their departures have made me feel so thankful for everyone who accepts and appreciates me for the way I am.

Then of course… it’s never been easy to keep up all kinds of relationships on earth… It’s not easy to handle my families, my best friends, even my co-workers… but I’m so touched knowing that after everything’s happened along the way, I never ever ending up as a lonely one. I’ve never been lonely, because even when I’m alone, I know that I always have some people for me to go home.

There are still some times I’m wondering why should my life being so damn hard like this. I hate when tears suddenly came down through my eyes. I hate when my heart is broken, when my life is falling apart, when I’m betrayed and disappointed… but at the end of the day, all of those pains have taught me to appreciate every little happiness in life, and also taught me how to never take people who sincerely love me for granted.

On top of my gratitude, I am most happy with all of the dreams those have come true. Every trip I’ve had is a dream coming true for me, and that’s why I mentioned earlier; traveling always makes me feel so blessed with my life. I’m blessed that even though it’s not easy to be me, I still manage to be happy for being myself.

My life will never ever be easy, but I hope, it will always be so much fun to live in 🙂