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Terlalu Sibuk itu Hanya Mitos!

Posted on: May 8, 2016

Gue pernah baca satu quote di Instagramnya Mandy Hale, “Too busy is just a myth.”

Baca quote itu mengingatkan gue sama teman-teman lama yang sangat sulit diajak meet up. Alasannya, karena terlalu sibuk. Ada yang sibuk dengan pekerjaan, ada yang sibuk dengan acara keluarga.

Mari kita bahas satu per satu. Gue punya alasan kuat untuk meyakini bahwa terlalu sibuk itu betulan hanya ‘mitos’ semata.

Yang pertama soal terlalu sibuk bekerja. Well, gue sendiri kebetulan bukan tipe orang yang bekerja hanya 9 to 5 alias datang tenggo dan pulang tenggo. Gue kerja lembur hampir tiap hari. Selalu ada saja kesibukan yang bikin gue harus pulang lebih larut. Malah terkadang, pekerjaan bisa saja mengganggu akhir pekan gue. Texting soal pekerjaan saat sedang asyik nonton di bioskop? Harus cepat pulang ke rumah hanya untuk buka laptop dan kirim report? Mendadak harus datang ke kantor di hari Sabtu dan Minggu? Sudah bukan hal baru buat gue. Tapi apakah ada sahabat gue yang mengeluh sangat sulit bikin janji ketemuan sama gue? Dijamin tidak ada!

Kemudian soal acara keluarga. Gue kebetulan terlahir di keluarga yang sangat besar. Bokap dan nyokap masing-masing punya 6 saudara kandung. Belum lagi saudara jauh dari kakek-kakek dan nenek-nenek gue yang masih cukup erat kekerabatannya. Saking banyaknya, misal gue married dan mau mengundang semua keluarga, bisa-bisa 500-600 undangan akan habis untuk keluarga gue saja. Nah, meski gue belum married, jumlah keluarga gue sendiri sudah cukup banyak, bukan? Jadi banyak acara keluarga? Memang. Tapi tidak sebanyak 30 hari dalam sebulan! Belum tentu ada yang married, tunangan, sunatan atau merayakan ulang tahun tiap bulannya. Arisan keluarga juga paling banyak hanya 2 acara tiap bulannya. Itupun jujur, gue jarang banget menghadirinya. Makanya gue suka penasaran apa benar ada keluarga besar yang selalu punya hajatan setiap akhir pekan setiap minggunya? Hehehe.

See? Terlalu sibuk itu hanya mitos. Gue selalu punya waktu untuk teman-teman gue. Gue toh bukan selebritis yang sibuk tur, bukan bula presiden RI yang sangat padat agenda kerjanya. Bahkan selebriti pun masih sering posting foto hanging out bareng teman-temannya kan!

By the way, jika hal ini juga terjadi dalam pertemanan kamu, sebetulnya tidak perlu berkecil hati. Hal ini bisa terjadi sama semua orang yang sudah beranjak dewasa. Yang penting cukup pastikan saja bahwa kita tidak ketularan pura-pura sibuk! Jangan jadi teman yang egois. Sibuk cari teman saat hanya sedang kesepian atau butuh pertolongan. It’s a big no no!

Finally, sisi positif dari fenomena ini adalah kesediaan untuk meluangkan waktu sebetulnya bisa jadi kriteria yang memudahkan kita untuk menyeleksi teman-teman lama kita. Kita jadi tahu mana yang sahabat sejati serta mana sahabat yang hanya datang saat ada maunya. Atau mana sahabat yang masih menganggap kita penting serta mana sahabat yang hanya menganggap kita bagian dari masa lalunya. If we still matter to them, they will make time for us. Period.

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It’s very important to feel content about our own life. No matter how hard we try, the truth is, we will NEVER get EVERYTHING we want to have in life. I want to have more curves, I want to have a pair of cheekbones and a chin like a supermodel, I want to be married at 30 years old, I want to be a Math expert, I want so many things in life and some of them are just some mission impossible. It’s true that I’m a go getter, but I simply have no time nor resource to pursue everything I want in life. There are some things that I need to live with it probably for the rest of my life. But you know what? I never regret any of that. I would rather count my blessings rather than feeling sorry for my imperfections. I’ve tried to make the very best of every day in my life, and for me, that is way more than enough. I’m happy just the way I am, and I’m thankful for everything I have, everything I don’t have, and everything that I will never have.
Be a better you, for you. Dress up, wear heels, put some make-up on, for you. Live in your dream, be awesome in what you do, especially for you. Learn from your mistakes, get back up from your downfalls, for you. Be kind, be compassionate, also for you. Make yourself proud for being the very best of you, not to please anyone else but you.
Every people has their very own insecurity. They have flaws, failures, they all once did a couple of things they are not proud of. They have one soul crushing events they wish to forget. Their life is not perfect and nor is mine. I am no different with any other person I know. If there’s one thing I do differently, that one thing that many people is reluctant to do, is that I forgive my past. I accept my flaws. I make peace with my guilts and failures. It’s all simply because there’s nothing I can do to change everything that has happened back in my past. What’s gone is gone, I can only decide what I would like to do on the days to come. Rather than drowning in miseries, I moved on. I’ve seen many people turned their problems to a nightmare. They made their worst moments in life even worse than it should be. They pointed fingers, they blamed random innocent people, they pushed people away, they ran off from reality, they did nothing useful for their own life. Some of them even made their personal problems as someone else’s problems for no particular reason. They let their insecurities hurt people who has nothing to do with their downfalls. My life is no better nor easier than anyone else, but at least, I’m trying so hard to make my own life a better place. If I can do it, and so can you!

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