A journey to remember

When You’re in Love with Somebody…

Posted on: December 13, 2015

Do you know that when people says “I’m in love with you”, it actually means deeper than someone who just says, “I love you”? I couldn’t really tell the difference between those two until just recently. I suddenly realize that once you are in love with somebody, you’ll never ever find a way out of it.

After you let go of someone you’re in love with, the truth is… you never really stop loving that person. You’re only moving on because you have no choice. You don’t really forget him out of your mind, you’re just getting used to live your life without him. Someday you will move on, find someone new, but that person… he will always has that one little spot deep inside your heart.

When you only loved somebody, someday you can forget your feeling for him and ask yourself, “Why the hell did I fall for him?” At some point, you will stop mentioning his name, you even no longer get excited hearing anything about his life. However I’m afraid, the same thing would never happen with someone you were in love.

That one special guy will always be a benchmark for your next boyfriend, or perhaps, for your future husband too. There are those good qualities that you wish you will find in your Mr. Right. At the end of the day, it may be that guy from the past who determines the way you define someone as your future Mr. Right.

As the time goes by, some things in your heart may never change. No matter how happy you are with your new love life, you will still want to look pretty when you know he will be around. For some things in life, his opinions still matter to you. You’re also still interested to learn how his life is going. To put it in a context, you will be interested to see how his fiancé looks like. You will secretly judge her and compare her with yourself. You hate that you do it, but you will still do it anyway.

The most unpleasant thing that may happen is when you start remembering him at the lowest points of your life. You couldn’t help but wondering… what if you did something differently back in the past? What if you and or he tried harder? How would your life turn out if it were him that spends life together with you?

And then many years from now, once or twice in your lifetime, you will tell your children, or perhaps your grandchildren, a story about how you used to love someone when you were younger. A love story to make them learn that we can’t always have what we want to have. You will also tell them that everything happened for a reason. And the lessons you learned from loving and losing somebody is simply the reason why it all happened: to make you a better person, and to make you cherish the one who stays in love with you with all your flaws.

I know it can be terrifying if everything I tell you in this blog is true. It may be right, it may be wrong. Anyhow for me, even if it’s truly happening in my own life, I believe I shouldn’t be worried at all. Why? Because I’m a believer that human’s heart is capable to be in love with more than just one person 🙂

To be in love with someone is a gift. Not everyone is capable to love that big, deep, genuine, and pure. It’s that kind of love that will give you your own fairy tale. You and him may not end up together, but if it gives you a beautiful memory and if it makes you grow up gracefully inside, then I can tell it’s also a happy ending, isn’t it?

Forget the pain, just be grateful that you used to feel that way. Only the girls with a big heart inside has the privilege to feel it at least once in her lifetime 🙂



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Life took me to many unimaginable people. The super kind, the selfless, the brave men, and of course, the mean and rude people, cheaters, liars, hypocrites, extremely arrogant, and all other qualities that got me thinking, “I never thought such people like these do exist!”
But I’ve also come to learn that sometimes, there is a bright side of the darkest people I know. They’re not always good, but they’re not always bad either.
At the end of the day, it helps me to define the people I can bear and the people I can’t stand. And most importantly, it helps me to decide the person I would like to become. I’m not a funny person. I’m not good at mingle with random people. I’m fierce, I’m a straight-talker, I get annoyed easily, and I have this resting b face that makes me look angry all the times. I’m not that kind of person whom people would miss when I’m not around.
But you know what?
I’m okay with all that flaws I have in me. Nobody is perfect, and neither am I. At the same time; everyone on earth is special, and so am I.
I know my worth. I know what I’m very good at. I know what I want and I work hard to make it happen. I’m a go getter and I fight my battles. I’m not an angel, but I’m not a devil either.
I was born to be the very best of myself, and just because I don’t always have what others have, it doens’t make me less as a person inside out. I’m whole just the way I am, and I’m beyond grateful of all that. I know that my career has been a bit of trouble for my personal life. I admit that it feels like a loss to me sometimes, but you know what? I don’t feel sorry about all that, not a even just a little bit.
My career has given me a comfort bed to sleep, taken me to the places I’ve never seen, brought me to the incredible people who end up as my best friends, and most importantly, it has really made my parents proud. I can sleep tight at night knowing that at least, I can support my parents after their retirements.
The way I see it, there’s nothing bad about all that, so why should anybody in my position feel sorry and less proud about their own hard works?
Don’t let anybody make you feel less than who you are. Make yourself and your loved ones proud, and for me, the rest doesn’t matter at all.
Be great, women! Whatever you choose to do for your own life, be great at it and don’t feel sorry for anything good in your life! Happy International Women’s day and stay awesome!

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