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6 Trik Untuk Menghilangkan Rasa Minder

Posted on: May 31, 2015

Obrolan sore Jum’at kemarin menginspirasi gue untuk menulis judul yang satu ini. Obrolan tentang rasa minder atas penampilan diri kita sendiri. Satu judul yang gue tulis berdasarkan pengalaman pribadi gue. Bukan sekedar teori sok tahu, tapi betul-betul sesuatu yang sudah gue praktekkan dan membuahkan hasil yang positif untuk diri gue sendiri. Maybe… these tricks will work for you too!

  1. Jangan terlalu sering memuji kecantikan perempuan lain. It’s good to be fair, but it’s not good to spend a long chat just to tell people how gorgeous other girls are. Terlalu sering melakukan hal ini justru hanya membuat kita semakin merasa ada yang kurang dengan diri kita sendiri. Kalo menurut gue, daripada sibuk mengamati kecantikan perempuan lain, lebih baik kita berkaca dan berpikir, “What can we do to make us feel pretty?”
  2. Jangan selalu mendengarkan pendapat orang lain tentang penampilan kita. Beda orang, beda pula pendapatnya. Jadi kalau mau selalu dituruti, maka tidak akan pernah ada habisnya! If it makes you feel comfort, secure, feel pretty and feel good about yourself, then just wear it!
  3. Tersenyum saat mendengar pujian orang lain, tidak perlu repot-repot berpikiran, “Jangan-jangan dia memuji karena ada maunya!” Nikmati saja pujian mereka! Dalam keadaan sebaliknya, tetap saja tersenyum tipis saat mendengar kritik pedas dari orang lain. Tidak perlu dipikirkan, karena toh, mereka belum tentu berpikir dulu sebelum melemparkan kritik pedas itu…
  4. Jangan menanamkan pikiran bahwa rasa minder itu sifatnya manusiawi. Ya, memang manusiawi, tapi bukan berarti kita boleh terus-terusan merasa minder! Jangan jadikan ‘manusiawi’ sebagai excuse untuk terus tenggelam dalam perasaan negatif macam itu… Hidup akan terasa lebih mudah, lebih indah, dan lebih bahagia saat kita menjalaninya dengan penuh percaya diri. Trust me!
  5. Malas berdandan. Kita tahu bahwa sedikit make-up bisa membuat kita lebih percaya diri. Kita juga tahu bahwa bantuan sepasang high heels bisa membuat langkah kita terasa lebih mantap. TAPI kita tidak punya waktu untuk dandan! Dan pakai high heels itu bikin pegal! Padahal kalau dipikir lagi, apa sih yang bikin perempuan-perempuan modis itu terlihat lebih menonjol? Make-up, pemilihan pakaian, dan sepasang high heels-nya bukan? If they can do it, then why can’t we?
  6. Other girls are pretty doesn’t mean that we are ugly. Pernah merasa sudah tampil cantik tapi langsung mendadak merasa jelek begitu sampai di tempat pesta? Hanya karena banyak perempuan lain yang terlihat lebih menawan? Throw that thought away! Di atas langit akan selalu ada langit. Jika kita sudah tampil semaksimal yang kita bisa, maka itu saja sudah lebih dari cukup! Kita toh sudah tidak bisa pulang ke rumah hanya untuk ganti baju baru… Lagipula siapa tahu, di mata mereka, justru penampilan kita yang terlihat lebih keren! Just relax and enjoy the party!

Seperti yang gue ceritakan sama teman-teman gue sore kemarin… Dulu, gue pernah jadi cewek yang sekedar menghampiri SPG untuk minta ini-itu pun bisa bikin gue ngerasa ragu-ragu. It was so terrible that I determined to change it!

I don’t need to have a plastic surgery, I don’t need other people telling me that I look pretty, I only need a NEW mind set, put a little of make-up on my face, dress-up in the morning and walk gracefully with my favorite pair of heels! Just one hour in the morning, then I’m good to go 😉


P.s.: If you think that only pretty girls who are capable to work with these tips, well you’re just wrong. I was not born pretty, there’s even one reader who once said in this blog that I was ugly 😉 If I can survive such ‘virtual bully’ and stay confident, then why can’t you?


3 Responses to "6 Trik Untuk Menghilangkan Rasa Minder"

“Malas berdandan. Kita tahu bahwa sedikit make-up bisa membuat kita lebih percaya diri. Kita juga tahu bahwa bantuan sepasang high heels bla bla bla” saya setuju, wanita lebih cantik kalau natural 😀

pernah liburan ke karimunjawa mbak ?

I think you will be more pretty if try some style of hijab kak 😉 #justsaying hhe~. Btw you are one of my favorite blogger 😀

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