My birthday this year was quite a story. Two weeks before my birthday, my mood suddenly dropped and it felt such a hot mess inside. Just went back from an incredible holiday didn’t make me feel any better (I even thought it might be what people called as post-holiday blues). I tried everything I could do to cheer me up but none of it was working. I kept wondering and I asked myself, “On my birthday, many people will wish me a long life to live, but for what? What else do I want to do in the rest of my life?”
November 30 around 3 PM, in the middle of a meeting in the office, my teammates entered the room singing a birthday song with a birthday cake and three candles on it. Right before blowing out the candles, I made a wish. I simply wishes that life would find me a reason to live longer. Something that excites me to wake up early in the morning, something that brings smiles and big laughters on my face, something that makes every step I take feels lighter no matter how hard this life gets.
It’s not that I’m not happy with my life. I am happy with my life. It’s just that it feels like I’ve been living the same old life, dealing with the same old dramas, and winning the same old battles in the past 10 years.
Need some examples?
I’ve had enough guys coming to my life just to watch them leave not so long after that. I’m sick of wondering how they truly feel about me. At this point, I’ve started to think that maybe, happily ever after is just not my thing.
Need another example?
A promotion at work doesn’t feel as good as it used to be. Yes, it keeps me proud of myself but that’s that. I’ve went through 6 promotions in the past 10 years and I’m thankful of that, but somehow, the euphoria was just not there anymore. It’s like no matter how delicious a food is, I’ll eventually get bored eating the same food over and over again.
Traveling still feels as good, but I can’t travel everyday of my life anyway (and again, once it becomes “regular”, the hypes will fade away!). What about writing, shopping, watching movies and all the things I always love to do? They are all still fun, but still, they are not sufficient to become a good reason to have a long life, aren’t they?
You know… writing all these has really made me feel bad about myself. It might sound like I’m not grateful for everything I have in life. But well, if you know me in person, for sure you’ll know how grateful I really am. I’m grateful but I need changes, the big ones, in my life. I want to have a brand new chapter in life. I was once unhappy with my life so many years ago and I don’t want to go back there! Letting myself feeling this way (empty, unmotivated, bored, emotionally tired and mentally exhausted) will eventually makes me less happy than I am right now. And to me, living an unhappy life is a nightmare!
I’m determined to figure out what is the real problem that leads me to this feeling and what I should do to make myself feel better over this weekend. If you guys have any idea, feel free to let me know! I desperately need an enlightenments at the moment. I hope this horrible feeling is just temporary and it will soon go far away!