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Don’t Let Your Insecurity Hurt You (and the People Around You)

Posted on: October 22, 2016

Living as an ugly duckling and having lots of doubts on myself? Been there done that. I was like an ugly duckling inside out so many years back. I know for sure how it used to hurt myself as much as it hurt the people around me. It hurt me in a way it made me feel bad on everything (even the good things!) and it hurt others as I pushed them away, harmed them with the words I said, and it was all only because I was not comfort of being myself.

Do you want me to write you a precise example?

When we believe we are ugly, just one person criticizing our pimples will hurt us badly. Just one critic is enough to make us hate them for speaking up their mind.

When we believe that we are a mediocre, one feedback from the boss will make us feel like we’re losing. We’ll start despising the boss, or maybe, we’ll hate anyone else who’s capable to win the competition.

When we believe that we are not lovable, just one fight will make us walk away. We tend to think it’s better to leave rather than being left behind.

When we believe that we are a loser, we tend to refuse to celebrate our victories. It feels like we’re just being lucky. Or whatsoever.

And what’s even worst, when we believe that our life is full of failures, we may end up hating everyone who seems to be doing so well with their life.

It’s actually okay to feel insecure. When I know I’m insecure on something, I immediately know that I have something to fix, to improve, to work on. Having said that, it’s never okay to let our insecurities hurt the innocent people around us.

Don’t be too comfort with your flaws. It only makes your insecurity scaling up to the higher level. If you know that you’re not comfort with something in yourself, then do something about it.

If you’re a student and you’re ashamed of your GPA, study harder. You may want to learn from the straight A students. They are not magically smarter than you, they only work harder than you do.

If you’re an employee and you’re not proud of your own works, then go asking your boss the things that you can do to improve your performance. Bad mouth your colleague won’t do you any good. It’s only a proof that you don’t deserve any better return from the Company.

If you’re a child, sibling, girlfriend/boyfriend, husband/wife to someone and you don’t feel like you’re loved enough, it’s always okay to ask them how they feel about you. Being cranky, silent treatment, or testing them with this and that will never send them the message. Or maybe, you can tell them that you love them first. If being honest about your feeling scares them away, then why would you want to be with them anyway.

If you’re not comfort with your body size, work out and eat less. If you’re not confident with your pimples, find the cure and get rid of your bad habits. Either find the solution or just live happily with it. Being a hater will never make us any prettier 😉

And if you don’t feel good about your personality, then do something to make you feel better. You know your problems and you know best how to fix it. You only need a strong will and a strong effort to make it happen.

Live your life with your very best efforts on everything. Your happiness, your achievements, and your future all lays on yourself. If you can’t make you feel good about yourself, then nobody can. Stop making excuses and just start with your very first move, starting from now!


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It’s very important to feel content about our own life. No matter how hard we try, the truth is, we will NEVER get EVERYTHING we want to have in life. I want to have more curves, I want to have a pair of cheekbones and a chin like a supermodel, I want to be married at 30 years old, I want to be a Math expert, I want so many things in life and some of them are just some mission impossible. It’s true that I’m a go getter, but I simply have no time nor resource to pursue everything I want in life. There are some things that I need to live with it probably for the rest of my life. But you know what? I never regret any of that. I would rather count my blessings rather than feeling sorry for my imperfections. I’ve tried to make the very best of every day in my life, and for me, that is way more than enough. I’m happy just the way I am, and I’m thankful for everything I have, everything I don’t have, and everything that I will never have.
Be a better you, for you. Dress up, wear heels, put some make-up on, for you. Live in your dream, be awesome in what you do, especially for you. Learn from your mistakes, get back up from your downfalls, for you. Be kind, be compassionate, also for you. Make yourself proud for being the very best of you, not to please anyone else but you.
Every people has their very own insecurity. They have flaws, failures, they all once did a couple of things they are not proud of. They have one soul crushing events they wish to forget. Their life is not perfect and nor is mine. I am no different with any other person I know. If there’s one thing I do differently, that one thing that many people is reluctant to do, is that I forgive my past. I accept my flaws. I make peace with my guilts and failures. It’s all simply because there’s nothing I can do to change everything that has happened back in my past. What’s gone is gone, I can only decide what I would like to do on the days to come. Rather than drowning in miseries, I moved on. I’ve seen many people turned their problems to a nightmare. They made their worst moments in life even worse than it should be. They pointed fingers, they blamed random innocent people, they pushed people away, they ran off from reality, they did nothing useful for their own life. Some of them even made their personal problems as someone else’s problems for no particular reason. They let their insecurities hurt people who has nothing to do with their downfalls. My life is no better nor easier than anyone else, but at least, I’m trying so hard to make my own life a better place. If I can do it, and so can you!

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