There’s a recent event which made me think about chances. About chances that we never give to the people we know. To the people who might be the best thing in our life, if only we ever gave them a chance to be a part of it.
Sometimes, we shut people down in the first place. When the first impression becomes everything to us, we don’t give them a chance to show us how good they can be. We divide people to ‘yes’ and ‘no’ right in the first sight. We just don’t care about the fact that it takes times for people to show their true colors. It takes times for us to see their true colors.
Or maybe… we do give them a chance to be a part of our life. As our friends. As our favorite colleagues. BUT… we never give them a chance to be more of it. We keep trying to convince ourselves that it’s not worthy. That we don’t really want them to be more than who they already are to us. We keep making excuses while in fact, we’re just scared. We’re just scared of the risk that we need to take just to be with them. We just don’t care about the possibility that they may be the best thing that ever happens to our life.
This thought finally reminds me to the people whom I pushed away. The people who sincerely wanted me to be a part of their lives. The people whom I easily judged as the wrong ones. I just realized that some of them, a few years later, have proven me that I was wrong. I was wrong to be afraid just to be with them. I was wrong for telling myself not to fight for them, fight for their presence in my own future.
Life is made up of choices. Somehow I still believe, even the wrong choices happened for a reason. It’s the wrong choices which finally lead me to learn how to do it right. Hence I know that I shouldn’t be drowning in regrets. Hence I know that all I need to do is starting to do it right: I should learn how to give people a chance. I should understand that when I give people a chance, I give myself a chance to get the best possible things to come.
Have you ever heard a quote that says, “If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try.” And you will never know how good it can be unless you give it a try. It may work, it may never work, but one thing for sure… at the end of the day, you will only regret the chances that you never take.
Give people a chance, take chances, and see how different your life will ever be.