I’m not ashamed of the fact that I occasionally visit psychologist just to consult about my everyday life. I know that I’m not the most miserable person on earth, but it doesn’t mean I don’t deserve a professional’s help on my problems.

One thing I like the most about my sessions with psychologists is that they often challenge traditional paradigms that lead me to think outside the box. Here are my most favorite quotes I got from my psychologists:

1. “You have to know the reason why you fall for him, otherwise, you won’t have any good reasons to hold on when life gets rough between you two.” I find it’s so true in so many ways! This advice fits better in reality rather than “I love him for no reason” as we often heard from a fairytale. It’s always good to do some reality check and ask ourselves, “Is it worth fighting for?”
2. “Dating at this age is no longer about getting through the thick and thin together. Every individual should be responsible for their own problem instead of dragging the other one into their personal problem.” I know it might not sound ideal, but again, it’s always good to do a reality check! It’s not a healthy relationship if you have to fix your loved one’s problems over and over again. Both people in a relationship should have a strong will to change and help themselves; and
3. “Negative thoughts towards anything new after an incident is actually a good thing. It means you learn something from your past mistake and you choose to be more careful to prevent the same thing from happening again. Give yourself some times to heal and it will eventually fade away.” It was such a relief for me to hear that!

I’ve come to learn that what we often heard among the society is not always the perfect fit. We’re only human and angelic advice is not always working well due our imperfections as a human. This is a real life after all, not a fairytale! Try to get real and feel the different!