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What a – Grown up – Girl Really Wants

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When I was younger, I thought what I really wanted was a guy who gets me. A charming guy who can make me laugh. A gentle man who knows how to treat me like a lady. The one who can make me feel pretty, make me feel special, make me feel like I’m the only girl in the world. But you know what… as the time goes by, as I’m growing up, I know that all the stuffs I just wrote down here, are no longer the number one things that I really want.

I know so many guys with charming smiles who can make me laugh and make me feel good about myself within seconds. They’re very polite, their pick-up lines are beautiful to hear. But what does it mean anyway if all they want is just to have some fun? It’s just to make them feel like a prince charming with many girls attracted to them. What does it mean to me if they never really want to stay?

In time I eventually understand that I need someone who makes me feel safe. Someone whom I believe will stay with me for better or worse. Not someone who makes me need to put so much efforts just make him stay. Not someone who only treats me as an option. Not someone who keeps making me being scared of him leaving in a blink of eyes. I simply need someone who gives me and him a chance to give our best shot. And believe me when I say, this kind of guy is not always easy to find.

Maybe he’s not someone who always understands me, but at least, he never stops trying to learn. Maybe he’s not always funny, not always nice to me, but I want him to always try to make things right for us. Maybe he’s not the smartest and richest guy I’ve ever met, but I want him to be tough enough to get through the worst possible days. He doesn’t need to be a super wise one, but I need him to accept me with all my flaws. And everytime I say “I” in this blog, believe me again when I say, it represents most of all the girls in the world, especially the mature ones.

It’s still nice to have someone who can make me laugh, who knows how to comfort me, how to make me feel special and so on, but at the end of the day, everything is nothing if he’s not willing to fight for me, fight for our chance. So that’s it; that’s all I (or all the girls on earth) really want is someone who gives his best to keep us as a part of his life. It might sound simple, yet once again, this guy is hard to find.

I Should be Fine

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Today, I suddenly feel like everything will be fine. I may not get everything I want to have. I may even lose that one big thing I always wanted. Somehow I feel, I should be fine.

I have my long-lasting best friends who are always there when I’m down. The ones who always find a way back to me. The ones whom I hope, will always be a part of every stage in my life.

I have great colleagues whom I can trust. The ones to laugh with everyday. The ones who help me out when I need the most.

I have a decent job. I have achieved more that I pictured I would do at this age. And no matter where I work, I always have those bosses who trust and support me tremendously.

I have a loving family who always accept me just the way I am. The ones who will always stand by me. The ones who take a very good care of me.

I’m not perfect, but I never stop trying to bring out the best in me.

I’m not a beauty queen, but I’m happy to see myself in the mirror everyday before I go to work.

I’m not yet a billionaire, but I’m grateful for every little thing I have in life.

And I don’t have a boyfriend yet, but I know how it feels to be loved.

After all of the things I write in this post, how can I not be fine? Life is up and down. I will gain and I will lose some. People come and go. Sometimes I am wanted, but sometimes I am rejected. But that’s okay, because once again, I should be just fine. I don’t need to have everything, and I don’t need to always win, just to be happy.

Recently I’ve Learned…

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Recently I’ve learned…

When you really love somebody, you won’t really have an exact reason why you love him that much.

You might be in love with his kindness, yet you’re still in love with him when he’s careless in his very bad day.

When you really love somebody, you might be surprised, or maybe shocked, with the real him that you never knew before. However at the end of the day, you still love him for who he is.

You can’t stop loving this person just because he doesn’t dress the way you want to. Not either just because he doesn’t always behave like a prince charming. You love him just the way he is.

When you find the one whom you really love with all of your heart, you will understand the reasons why people say that love is blind. He might lie to you, break his promises, even break your heart… but you still love him anyway.

A real love is not always easy to understand. It may come unexpectedly. Not to someone whom you ever imagine. Not at the time that you choose to fall in love.

Yet real love is real love. Now that I understand it, next I’m hoping to feel it, to someone, who feels it back to me.

20 Rules to Live By

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Based on some other great quotes, life advice from remarkable authors, and of course, based on my own experiences, here are 20 rules I do to live by. You don’t need to agree with this all, your life is your own rule, but I hope at least, it will inspire you to define yours. Enjoy the blog!

  1. Expectation kills your happiness. Set your goals, focus on it but keep your expectation low;
  2. Pick your battle. You don’t need to reply every argument coming to you and you don’t need to be angry for all the things irritating you. Save your energy to fight for something worthy;
  3. But then it’s okay to be angry, as long as the anger gives you more benefit over the harms it may bring;
  4. Say exactly what you mean, ask instead of assuming, and always remember: people are not mind reader!
  5. You can’t please everyone and you don’t have to do that at all. So stop trying so hard to be a ‘people pleaser’;
  6. You don’t need to be friends with ALL people on earth. Having haters is normal, especially if you happen to be an awesome one 😉
  7. Find your happy place, because sometimes, happiness is simply being in the right place. However, at the end of the day, happiness is in your hand. You only need to find a place which suits you the best;
  8. Love yourself first. It’s okay to spend money for decent foods, nice clothes, holiday trips, or any other things those make you happy. Reward yourself for all of the hard works you’ve done;
  9. Don’t be afraid to say “yes” or “no”. Be a brave one!
  10. Every human on earth has fear inside their heart, but the brave people will fight their own fear in order to shape their own destiny;
  11. If it feels wrong, don’t do it. But if it feels right, then you’ve got to do it for whatever it takes;
  12. Dream, believe, and make it happen!
  13. Let go of the things that you can’t control, but before that, make sure that you have given all of your best fights;
  14. Stay away from negative people. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t appreciate your efforts and constantly make you feel bad about yourself;
  15. Find a couple of friends whom you can trust to share your life with. Keeping all of those burdens alone will drive you crazy;
  16. If a guy keeps making you wondering how he feels about you for months, then it’s time to move on. If he really wants you, he will make it obvious. At the end of the day, you won’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want you back;
  17. Think before you speak. Your words will be the sword who kill you back. It’s not easy, but doable;
  18. Learn to forgive. No matter how good they are, their flaws will eventually hurt and break your heart. They’re not perfect, and neither you are;
  19. No matter how cruel and horrible this life is, never ever give up on being a good person. Don’t do revenge, don’t blame people for your mistakes, try to be honest, sincerely help the others and do the right things even when nobody is watching;
  20. At the end of the day, no matter how hard you try, you will never ever be a perfect person. However, never stop doing your best! You don’t need to be perfect, but you’ve got to be awesome!

Tu Me Manques

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il_570xN.371987770_stnnPeople says, we don’t really know what we feel about somebody until we start missing their presences in our life. And it can happen in every kind of relationships on earth.

I knew how much I cared about my nephew in my first out of town trip after he was born. Knowing that he was sick during my departure made me feel worried all the time. It felt like I wanted to go back home soon just to see that he was okay.

I knew how wonderful my best friends were after I realized how lousy other friends could be. Too bad that the terrible fight we had before made me couldn’t text them just to say hi. There were some times I really wanted to share the news about my life but I couldn’t. When I finally made up with them, it felt like a few parts of me were coming back.

I knew what a great boss that I used to have after knowing that other people might not do the same favors he did to me. It felt bad to realize that he had no obligation to be that good to me but he did. I’m happier with my new life now, I’m okay with my new boss, but frankly sometimes I think, “It would be different if it were him.”

Finally, most of the time, I knew that I loved somebody when they start missing from my life. In the worst scenario, it could happen when they left me for good. My life was falling apart, broken heart, and bla bla bla.  But sometimes, it could also happen in such an unexpected time. If I feel bad knowing that he will leave just for a holiday trip for instance, at that moment I will know I have that one feeling for him.

Unfortunately, I’m not good on missing somebody. I hope I could just grab my phone and text them first. But all that I can do is mourning the long gone past or looking at the calendar and counting days if I know for sure they will still come back. That’s why I really hate missing somebody.

I hate wondering whether they’re also thinking of me. I hate wondering whether they will say hello to me first. I hate wondering whether something will change upon their return. I also hate knowing that I no longer have somebody to talk those stupid things, to laugh those hilarious jokes, to work things out together, or simply just to see them somewhere in my daily life. And for me, it’s not a pleasant thing to feel this way.

Do you know in French, you don’t really say “I miss you” when you actually miss somebody? They will say instead, “Tu me manques” which means “You are missing from me”. It sounds nice to me, and, it describes better how I feel about missing somebody. I miss them, simply because they are missing from my life. And I really really… want to have them back.

It’s Not Easy to Be Me, but It’s Fun!

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Traveling always makes me feel so blessed with my life, always more and more than I ever did before. It feels like the most perfect time for me to count my blessings. It makes me feel grateful for everything I’ve achieved, for every loss I’ve survived; I’m simply grateful for the person whom I’ve become.

A few nights ago, I walked along Disneysea Japan, strolling to my most favorite ride in that amusement park for the second time, alone. Two of my friends have made their ways back to our hotel, and the other one decided to watch the firework in the central park. I hugged myself to fight the windy night, looked out of the beautiful lamps along the street, and I told myself… “I’m really happy with the decent life God has given to me.”

I started my career from scratch, from an intern in one of the biggest audit firms worldwide. I began my first trip abroad almost two years afterward, and four years later, there I was… in a country that I always wanted to visit. I was there and I managed to do everything I always wanted to do with my Japan trip!

As I’ve written above, I was alone in the last minutes before the Disneysea park closed, but I was still happy for being there. It made me feel so proud even more! It reminded me of my solo trip to Bangkok last year which made me proud of my courage to travel alone. I’m proud that I know how to be happy even when I had nobody right beside me. I’m so blessed with all of the good friends around, but I’m happy to know that I don’t count my happiness on anybody’s hand.

Five or six years ago, a friend of mine wrote on her Facebook page a status that really impressed me personally. She simply said, “It’s not easy to be me, but it’s fun!”

As the time goes by, as my life as an adult started to go up and down, I eventually feel the way my friend feels about her own life. I also feel, so many times, that it’s not easy to be me… but it’s fun!

It was not easy to work in managerial level when I was only 25 years old, but I’m proud that I have passed those bumpy roads, and I believe that I have been a good leader apart of my young age.

It was not easy to spend long hours at work, to survive the sleepless night, to lose so many times for my personal life, but I’m delighted, I’m even addicted, to the awesome results I’ve got in return.

It is not easy to have many haters who always try to bring me down, but I’m also flattered because they’re actually showing me how much I’ve achieved with my own life.

It is not easy to watch many best friends suddenly walked away for no reasons, but at the same time, their departures have made me feel so thankful for everyone who accepts and appreciates me for the way I am.

Then of course… it’s never been easy to keep up all kinds of relationships on earth… It’s not easy to handle my families, my best friends, even my co-workers… but I’m so touched knowing that after everything’s happened along the way, I never ever ending up as a lonely one. I’ve never been lonely, because even when I’m alone, I know that I always have some people for me to go home.

There are still some times I’m wondering why should my life being so damn hard like this. I hate when tears suddenly came down through my eyes. I hate when my heart is broken, when my life is falling apart, when I’m betrayed and disappointed… but at the end of the day, all of those pains have taught me to appreciate every little happiness in life, and also taught me how to never take people who sincerely love me for granted.

On top of my gratitude, I am most happy with all of the dreams those have come true. Every trip I’ve had is a dream coming true for me, and that’s why I mentioned earlier; traveling always makes me feel so blessed with my life. I’m blessed that even though it’s not easy to be me, I still manage to be happy for being myself.

My life will never ever be easy, but I hope, it will always be so much fun to live in 🙂

17 Things I’ve Learned from Niro

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Here are the things I’ve learned during three years working in Niro. They are the things I’ve learned from my bosses and other colleagues, from my own experiences, or simply the things which I’m still working to achieve.

  1. We can’t please everyone at work;
  2. We have to be dare to do the right things. Being a coward won’t do us any good;
  3. Be careful with the one who looks nice all the time. They can be the one who stabs our back before we know it;
  4. The most effective approach in people management… Start nicely, if it doesn’t work, give reminder, if it doesn’t work again, be assertive, and if it still fails, it’s okay to be angry;
  5. Don’t guess, ask instead. Too much guessing what’s on other people’s mind will lead us to a terrible miscommunication;
  6. Have a problem with the boss? Talk to the boss. Have a problem with our staff? Talk to the staff. Bad mouth to our friends won’t solve anything at all;
  7. Don’t talk too much, don’t write e-mails, and don’t make any important decision when we’re angry. Give ourselves a break for a while;
  8. There should be a balance between reward and punishment;
  9. Avoiding the implementation of reward, punishment, and competition is not a good idea. Equality is NOT always a good thing, and equality could lead into an unfairness at work;
  10. Don’t preach anyone else while we still have the flaw in the same topic. It won’t give you any respect from others;
  11. Everything is not always as bad as we think it is… Try to be more positive;
  12. There is no such a thing like too difficult task to accomplish, everything is doable. It’s just the matter of whether the result is worthy to fight for;
  13. Most of the time, success is about our attitude. We’ve got to have that ‘success-attitude’, otherwise, no matter how smart we are, we will always be a nobody at work;
  14. 3 keys of successful career which works for me: exceed other people’s expectation, always do the right things to do (even if it doesn’t always look pretty), and a brilliant mind;
  15. Do not ask or demand more than the amount we have given to the Company. Compensate our flaws with our outstanding performance. We can’t be perfect, but at least, we have to be awesome;
  16. Don’t try too hard to be an angel at work, being a good human is already enough. An angel-wannabe won’t survive the rough bumpy road; and
  17. It’s never easy to determine our real friends at work, but at the end of the road, we will eventually see which one is real or fake. Do make friends in the office, but be careful.

You Know You’re Happy With Your Life If You…

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You know you’re already happy with your job if you no longer compare it with the previous one, or when finding a new job never crosses your mind again not because you’re afraid to quit, but simply because you know you already have the best one.

You know you’re already happy with your love life when you stop talking about your Ex like all the time, or when you have stopped calling and texting them just because you still feel something is missing or just because you’re afraid that you have lost your best one.

You know you’re already happy with your friendship when you no longer have to try hard just to show off how many friends you already have, or when the warmth of true friendship touches your heart in better and worse.

You know you’re already happy with your families when you sincerely accept them as a part of your life instead of feeling trapped just because you have no other choice other than sticking with them.

You know you’re happy with who you are when you stopped trying to become someone else. You could accept and deal with your flaws, and you sincerely feel grateful for all the good things in you.

You know you’re happy with your choices when you stop constantly asking yourself, “What if I took that other decision?” You will also stop trying so hard just to convince yourself that you have made the right decisions.

You know you’re happy with your achievements when you stopped trying to bring people down just because it looks like they have achieved much more than you do. You will sincerely accept the fact that every people have their own path and their own definition of success.

Finally, you know you’re happy with your life when you could stay strong, stay positive, and stay enjoying your life even when things around you are not always pretty. You know that your life is not perfect but you also know how to deal with it. You no longer wait for perfection to come just be happy with the life you already have.

Happiness will never come to someone who just sits and hopes miracle will come and bring some joys. We have to work very hard just to be happy with our job. We have to push ourselves to become a good person if we want to be surrounded by many good friends. We have to fight and never give up in order to live happily ever after with our soulmates. In a few words, we need to work hard just to be happy.

Life is beautiful, only if you know how to live in it. Wish you have a happy life! 🙂

Someday I’ll Know

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Someday I’ll know…

The reason behind your attention in tiniest details of my life.

The reason behind your cute jealousy once or twice in our history.

The reason why you always listened to every word I ever said.

The reason why you always tried to comfort me.

Until finally… the reason why you suddenly walked out of my life.

 

You used to be my day.

You were the one I told everything I knew.

I knew you like you were a best friend.

But now… you are only somebody that I used to know.

Then again… someday I’ll know what turned us becoming strangers.

Someday I’ll know I was right or wrong.

 

Maybe I took you wrong.

Maybe you only wanted to become a good friend.

But maybe I was right…

Maybe it’s true that I did something wrong.

I did something which killed what you felt inside.

 

Many times have passed me by.

Sometimes I wish I could forget you like you never existed.

But most of the time… deep in my heart… I’m still wondering.

What if I never pushed you away everytime I was afraid?

What if I tried harder?

What if I never let you go?

But once again… someday I’ll know the answers for those questions.

 

I do always wish nothing but the best for you.

I will always remember you as somebody whom I used to love.

Maybe our path will never get crossed again.

Maybe we’ll find our own happily ever after with someone else.

Maybe I will never hear your voice,

Not either seeing your face no more.

But one thing for sure…

I do still believe that someday I’ll know…

Someday I’ll know what we used to have.

And someday, I’ll also know the reason why we never meant to be.

 

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Dear God

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Dear God;

Today I have something to ask… I would like to humbly ask for Your guidance.

My dear God… please help me to see my mistakes, clearly, as well as I could easily see other people’s mistakes.

Please God… don’t let me take a wrong direction. Don’t let me make a decision when I’m angry. Don’t let anything or anyone cloud my own judgment. Please guide me to always do the right things in my life.

Please let me being surrounded by good people. I may be someday in the same places with the bad guys, but please God… don’t ever let me being a part of them. Protect me from their influences and don’t ever let me think it’s okay to do those horrible things just because they do it all the times.

God… thank you for the decent life You have given to me. Please keep me away from being greedy, from taking the pennies I don’t deserve, and from worship money beyond everything. Please bless me for everything I do to earn my life, my dreams, my future.

My dearest God… as I do always try to be a good person, then I believe You already have a good man to stay with me for the rest of my life. I may fall for the wrong ones sometimes, but please God, don’t let me be blinded continuously. Kindly wake me up and give me strength to walk away.

If I finally have found my Mr. Right, please give me strength to hold on, to never give up on him, to love him and cherish every moment with him until my last breath. When hard times come to us, please do remind me to the very first days I fell in love and to every single day which ever made me want to be with him for eternity.

Dear God… you are the One who knows all of my flaws. I don’t always fulfill my promises to You, missed my Prayer to get close to You, I make mistakes, I hurt the people whom I love, but at the end of my life, I only want to be remembered as a good person. So please… I’ll always need You to guide me walking on the right path. Maybe someday I’ll get lost, but please… do always give me a way back home.

 

With love;

Riffa.